How can one really be the benefactor of a name? Anyway religiously in Islam it is not mandatory nor tradition that women take the names of their husbands. She may keep her own name if she wishes or change it if she wishes. The children take the fathers name to determine and keep alive lineage. Like if I had a son his name would be _____ ibn Shaheed (my hubby's name is shaheed). I would be Umm ______ and my husband would be Abu _____. If I got married to another man my son from my first marriage would carry on his father's name/family lineage, not my new husbands. I would keep my own name as it is not necessary to change it. Applying a name implies a type of ownership .....sometimes...... not all the time. So a man's wife is not his property in Islam. His children are of his loins though, and his wife is not (ughh). If the kids carry my name, and these are his only children and something happens to him his family name is lost. My family name is never lost because I didn't change it in the first place, and also there is nothing stopping me from inserting my name into the names of my children. So like I could name my girl maybe Ruqayyah bint Davis Shaheed. See? No problem. All the names can be given.