Who are or have been the toxic people in your life?
How do you manage them?
How do you manage them?
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'Friendship' divorce. At one time I had to put up with those I considered toxic, to keep some sanity and dignity in a job. Now, in retirement, there is no need. So I just avoid such people. Even when I had to work with some, I manipulated as best I could to mimimize interaction. Why bother?Who are or have been the toxic people in your life?
How do you manage them?
Who are or have been the toxic people in your life?
How do you manage them?
Avoidance. Figure out some covert way of mitigating the damage they do. The ones you can't find a way to completely avoid, like family.
Who are or have been the toxic people in your life?
How do you manage them?
How do you manage the ones you can't avoid?
Hire a good legal team.How do you manage the ones you can't avoid?
Haven't really encountered a lot of toxic people in my life and those few I have. I either simply ignore, if possible, so not interested in what they have to say, what they do etc. or I simply tell them to get lost or shut up.Who are or have been the toxic people in your life?
How do you manage them?
My father was toxic growing up.
They always tell you that you'll see how your parents were right when you grew up, but the opposite happened in my case. My dad grew to realize that he'd treated all of us like poo, and amended his ways and apologized, though it took time. Was too late for him and my mom though; she left, and I don't blame her for doing so. I think that's what kicked him into action, really. We get along well now, though it took years to undo the damage.
Recently, I've had to separate myself from a childhood friend. I've always been unconventional, but this never really thwarted our friendship. However, as she got older, she got bitter and judgmental and started taking it out on me by making cracks against me, and saying other disparaging things that friends don't say to friends. I understand that it came from a place of deep hurt, and I don't hold it against her, but it was in turn making me unhappy and killing my confidence. I just stopped answering the phone. Her visiting me wasn't a concern; she only seemed to have time to spend with other more 'normal' folks, so no issue there. She was just using me as a sounding board to dump her negativity on, but no more.
I was a little lonely at first(few people call me these days), but I felt a lot better after a week or two.
I feel you with your story about your dad. I'm glad you guys were able to patch things up at least!
I think you've alluded to your situation with your friends in one of my threads a little bit. I know how it feels to be the sounding board for one's friends as well, as you've read about me. It really sucks losing friends you've know for years and years, but honestly, it sounds like you lost her long before that.
Without that negativity to weigh you down, your burdens become that much lighter.
You know, I wouldn't mind being a sounding board so much, but when the remarks began to be condescending, that was when I knew there was a big problem. Vent all day, I am fairly patient. Just don't insult me when you're done...
I don't believe she liked me, though I don't think she realized that. She was too enamored with how I was able to calm her down or keep her realistic when she was upset, but the traits that were uniquely mine she grew to disparage. And I am sure you know firsthand that the statement "I like you because you make me feel..." is not real affection.
Who are or have been the toxic people in your life?
How do you manage them?
Lol. Good catch.PSA: This is not an opportunity to attack other RF members...
How do you manage the ones you can't avoid?
I haven't encountered so many toxic people, since they usually are not part of my life unless I cannot avoid them, and if so then I try to minimise their impact.Who are or have been the toxic people in your life?
How do you manage them?
Who are or have been the toxic people in your life?
How do you manage them?