I just found a quote online that struck me as holding truth, and that I find this to be very, very interesting.
"The desire of a man is for the woman, but the desire of the woman is for the desire of the man" - Germaine De Stael
I can only speak for myself, but I find that both in courtship and in sexual intercourse, this desire for the man's desire (of me) is my deepest motivation.
Do any other women here find this relatable? Do you also find it interesting that a woman is so motivated by a man's desire or wanting of her?
Well it certainly explains some of the things which bother men. such as why it takes us 7 minutes to get ready, while you have to wait for an hour and a half for the woman to get ready. by the time she's ready, you feel as if you have covered all current events in North America, Western Europe and the Middle east. had at least 2 cups of coffee, and listened to an entire Leonard Cohen album. and the most romantic thing you can think of saying to your girl after she's spent all this time getting ready, is 'are you sure you are going to be comfortable in these shoes'?
hi Madhuri, yes i think this is very true. Women crave for a mans attention and affection. But men are more inclined to desire the women physically rather then the woman herself as a person/companion/partner if you know what i mean.
That's pretty stereotypical. can't speak for all men out there, but there are plenty of men who are interested in a woman's brain as much as her bust. many men crave an interesting woman they can actually talk to about.. interesting things. a sense of humour.. important too.
also, the whole concept that men physically crave women more than the other way around is completely not true. women can crave sex, take action to get sex, and get 'dirty' in their sex life just as much as men.
I believe this is why many men are prone to seek out many partners, they can have the most beautiful women in the world as a partner, but they will still seek out more because it is the desire for the physical which can take over in man and drive him.
Maimonides, the famous Jewish philosopher and scholar has said: 'Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.'
Terry Pratchett paraphrased it to: 'Build a man a fire, and he'll be warm for a day. Set a man on fire, and he'll be warm for the rest of his life.'
When a man has found a partner for a life time, there is no good reason for him to act on juvenile bachelor exploits.
Of course not all men will be driven to such extreme though, but it seems to be their weakness.
I admit, that I have a 'weakness' for attractive women. I just never played on it outside the 'game rules'.even if a man is not single, it can brighten up a grey day just to have an attractive woman sitting next to you, or just have a nice casual conversation with one. I consider it in the realm of normality.