Why Can't You Just Be Nice?

[Mock Turtle]

You're too late. I'm already leaving staff. I'm just waiting for somebody to flip the switch to turn off the blue nameplate. As of today I'm not even actively moderating. I don't know maybe I'll do a couple of things, but I'm a lame duck mod at this moment.

Is there a vacancy - me, me, me please (very low warning count).

 

[Brickjectivity]

Is there a vacancy - me, me, me please (very low warning count).

You have to be related to Elvis Presley through marriage and own a small three legged dog. That's the only way.

 

[Audie]

In the heat of debate, why do some of you feel the need to behave like a jerk or be disrespectful to get your point across?

I've been in heated debates, while I occasionally resort to sarcasm or snark either to get my point across or to inject humor, I do my best to maintain a level of respect for the person with which I'm engaged.

I wonder why others here struggle to do the same. Would you walk up to someone on the street and speak with someone the way you do here? I'm sure some of you would have your bell rung for the lack of respect you display here if you displayed such in real life.

Is it because you have a degree of anonymity here?

Does behaving like a jerk to others somehow make you feel better about yourself?

"Because I am not not a nice person" was my first thought.
Then I thought, start by eliminating snark, and then
try other improvements.

 

[amorphous_constellation]

So if someone else uses "moose face" to use a neutral example, I'll be tempted to use "moose face" in return and think the other is trying to project their own problem onto me.

awesome term... moose face. I have to try it some time

 

[columbus]

You're too late. I'm already leaving staff. I'm just waiting for somebody to flip the switch to turn off the blue nameplate. As of today I'm not even actively moderating. I don't know maybe I'll do a couple of things, but I'm a lame duck mod at this moment.

Well, that seems unfortunate.
For everyone except you.

How long do you think I'll last after you've gone?
Tom

 

[gnomon]

Awareness.

Awareness of how one’s behavior:

• can potentially impact another.
• can potentially impact oneself.
• can potentially impact productivity of a discussion or debate.
• appears to others who see it.

I love this thread.

 

[columbus]

Well, that seems unfortunate.
For everyone except you.

How long do you think I'll last after you've gone?
Tom

Hey @Audie
I just hit 50!

What term do you suppose pushed me to the top?
Tom

 

[Revoltingest]

Hey @Audie
I just hit 50!

What term do you suppose pushed me to the top?
Tom

This is about numerology.
I suspect that The Man didn't want a squared number which is odd.
50 is even....& half way to 100.

 

[Brickjectivity]

Well, that seems unfortunate.
For everyone except you.

How long do you think I'll last after you've gone?
Tom

Aw, shucks. Thanks for making a commotion over me.

 

[columbus]

This is about numerology.
I suspect that The Man didn't want a squared number which is odd.
50 is even....& half way to 100.

Some people get annoyed at being mistaken for a man.
But not me.
Tom

 

[Revoltingest]

Some people get annoyed at being mistaken for a man.

I've never made that mistake.

 

[Heyo]

Some people get annoyed at being mistaken for a man.
But not me.
Tom

Hudson:
"Hey Vasquez, have you ever been mistaken for a man?"

Vasquez:
"No, have you?"

 

[Milton Platt]

In the heat of debate, why do some of you feel the need to behave like a jerk or be disrespectful to get your point across?

I've been in heated debates, while I occasionally resort to sarcasm or snark either to get my point across or to inject humor, I do my best to maintain a level of respect for the person with which I'm engaged.

I wonder why others here struggle to do the same. Would you walk up to someone on the street and speak with someone the way you do here? I'm sure some of you would have your bell rung for the lack of respect you display here if you displayed such in real life.

Is it because you have a degree of anonymity here?

Does behaving like a jerk to others somehow make you feel better about yourself?

I think patience wears thin and many who normally would be quite pleasant get more than a little flippant or demeaning. It is very tiring to be asked for evidence of something and then have the evidence ignored. Willful ignorance is hard to take. Not that this a good reason. I have often simply ceased to have the conversation when it becomes apparent that the person who asked for a source has not bothered to read the source,

 

[Audie]

Hey @Audie
I just hit 50!

What term do you suppose pushed me to the top?
Tom

Um microchinkette?

 

[gnomon]

Some people get annoyed at being mistaken for a man.
But not me.
Tom

Because a strong woman knows how to represent!

You go girl!

Was that snark?

All apologies, not really, but couldn't help myself.

Take that and....

When you are chewing on life's gristle
Don't grumble, give a whistle
And this'll help things turn out for the best
And.....

And always look on the bright side of life

Ya'll know the rest.