I am going to start by saying that I am not sure why I am writing this here. It is actually quite strange that I am inviting all of you, none of which I have met in person, into a part of my life that leaves me incredibly vulnerable. But here we are and if you take the time to read this, for whatever reason, just know how much I appreciate you.
Tonight, the Mrs and I decided we are ‘taking a break’ after being together for four years. Let’s be honest, most of us know the probability of making a comeback from a ‘break’ is slim. In order to properly tell the story, I suppose I should start from the beginning.
About two years ago, I decided to go to grad school for software engineering. It was a considerable challenge because I had to work full time while maintaining a demanding class schedule. I formed an unhealthy relationship with marijuana to help cope and relax with my newfound stress.
After my graduate program was over, I found that it was actually challenging to stop. It took me several months of trial and error, but in the last few months or so I have had some considerable success. Unfortunately, a side effect of my poorly planned coping mechanism is that it left depression behind. You see, what people don’t tend to talk about in regards to the devil's lettuce is that it doesn’t expose your brain to emotional highs or lows. If you partake on occasion this isn’t a bad thing. If you do it for a long period of time, you tend to have a terrible time coping with negative emotions when you come out of the fog.
I was no different.
Depression impacts everyone differently. For me, it manifested in the form of irritation and anxiety in social gatherings. This made her feel uncomfortable because I would experience mood swings and sometimes other people noticed.
The Mrs and I talked about this and I tried to explain what was happening. I also promised to try to be better. Despite my ability to control these negative side effects improving, they still occurred. Over the course of the last six months, it simply became too much for her. I don’t blame her. She didn’t sign up for depressed, emotionally irregular Quetzal. She signed up for the confident, capable Quetzal. The one who was there when she met me.
This stings because it is my fault.
I formed an unhealthy dependence.
I could not gain reasonable control of my negative emotions.
I did not address these problems soon enough.
I am clean now and I have been in therapy since July. All of these things are good things, but they just came too late. The balance was due and the tax man would not be denied.
I still get a bit choked up because when we were talking, I kept trying to think of things to say or ask. There was this little naive part of me that said “Well if the discussion doesn’t stop, it isn’t over.” The discussion did eventually stop and I think we both know it’s over. If only I had made better choices and if only I wasn’t so sad, this wouldn’t have happened. But the truth hurts.
Tonight, the Mrs and I decided we are ‘taking a break’ after being together for four years. Let’s be honest, most of us know the probability of making a comeback from a ‘break’ is slim. In order to properly tell the story, I suppose I should start from the beginning.
About two years ago, I decided to go to grad school for software engineering. It was a considerable challenge because I had to work full time while maintaining a demanding class schedule. I formed an unhealthy relationship with marijuana to help cope and relax with my newfound stress.
After my graduate program was over, I found that it was actually challenging to stop. It took me several months of trial and error, but in the last few months or so I have had some considerable success. Unfortunately, a side effect of my poorly planned coping mechanism is that it left depression behind. You see, what people don’t tend to talk about in regards to the devil's lettuce is that it doesn’t expose your brain to emotional highs or lows. If you partake on occasion this isn’t a bad thing. If you do it for a long period of time, you tend to have a terrible time coping with negative emotions when you come out of the fog.
I was no different.
Depression impacts everyone differently. For me, it manifested in the form of irritation and anxiety in social gatherings. This made her feel uncomfortable because I would experience mood swings and sometimes other people noticed.
The Mrs and I talked about this and I tried to explain what was happening. I also promised to try to be better. Despite my ability to control these negative side effects improving, they still occurred. Over the course of the last six months, it simply became too much for her. I don’t blame her. She didn’t sign up for depressed, emotionally irregular Quetzal. She signed up for the confident, capable Quetzal. The one who was there when she met me.
This stings because it is my fault.
I formed an unhealthy dependence.
I could not gain reasonable control of my negative emotions.
I did not address these problems soon enough.
I am clean now and I have been in therapy since July. All of these things are good things, but they just came too late. The balance was due and the tax man would not be denied.
I still get a bit choked up because when we were talking, I kept trying to think of things to say or ask. There was this little naive part of me that said “Well if the discussion doesn’t stop, it isn’t over.” The discussion did eventually stop and I think we both know it’s over. If only I had made better choices and if only I wasn’t so sad, this wouldn’t have happened. But the truth hurts.