I wish I had some useful advice to offer.Are you kidding? My husband dictates nothing or at least he tries to and I just nod and pretend to agree (stops arguments before they start). I spend most of my away from him and his constant TV watching. I have invited my husband to join- he won't, but he is almost opposite of me on almost anything, too, so it would be interesting.
I don't even have any bad advice for you.