There are people who say they are happy because everything has gone their way and their life is just as they want it to be. They have/had a successful career and a happy marriage and most of them raised children. They have had no real problems or struggles in life. Some of these people are still working but many are retired. Those who are retired planned for their retirement way ahead of time and everything is working out as they planned it. Most of them raised children and many have grandchildren and are now “doing” whatever they want to every day.
If this sounds like a fantasy, too good to be true, then obviously you are not one of these people.
These people might be happy but are these people really better off than those of us who have never had a stable life but have rather struggled all our lives and are still struggling day by day with no plans for the future and no way to know if this is ever going to change?
Please note that I am not referring to financial security. The happy people I described are financially secure but the ones who struggled and still do might also be financially secure, yet they have had other struggles and still do.
This is related to our ultimate purpose in life which is why I posted it here. I will leave to ponder how my question might be related to our ultimate purpose in life but I would appreciate your comments.
Happiness to me stems from the ability to learn and apply what you learn, the ability to relate, the ability to explore and living a life aligned with your own personal nature. That may or may not be a good thing that last thing there.
If there is an ultimate purpose or an ultimate truth then happiness would be about having your own personal nature aligned with whatever that ultimate truth and purpose is.
If you are aligned personally then the journey is just as joyful as the destination.
Stagnation, isolation, and being overwhelmed with the big goals, and not living the small things that get you to those big goals is miserable.
For me I have a lofty destination in aspiring to live toward growing with virtues, and becoming more virtuous. My whole life is one struggle after another, and it's a road of painful lessons. I would be delighted to find out that life is eternal. But I suspect life has finality. So I'm never really too happy. But nevertheless I find some things to be happy about.
The easiest way to happiness is to be physically healthy. If you don't have your health, and important and worthwhile things to do then you won't be happy.
To me happiness is a long way from fulfillment. Happiness is not joy. Fulfillment brings joy. Maybe happiness is a small step toward fulfillment, I don't know. I have three disabilities that steal my happiness. Fulfillment to me is perfect virtues.
I see that a lot of people enjoy things that to me are very immoral. But oh well.
I have a vision though and a conscience. If life is forever then the only joy there is is in all the virtues. Honor, empathy, compassion, honesty, love, and about 90 other positive character traits.
That to me is ultimate purpose; the virtues. Everything that is trustworthy is in the virtues. I never really expect to see virtues in human nature. I've seen lots of vices though. Luckily I've known some pretty decent people over my years as well. So I should be thankful for that, and thus happy.
I do wonder if human nature is prone to vices, and thus faulty though. Not everything in reality makes perfect sense. The only perfect sense I can make is with the virtues. That's one way there might be a Supreme existence, or some sort of God.