To convert to a religion because of a love interest? Not a good idea. Are you ready to commit your life to that religion, even if after 6 months she decides to break it off, or you decide to? Are you really wanting to follow Islam, for its own sake, abandoning these other practices you have been find useful to you on your search?My life just got very good in many ways but very difficult in the same time.
Over the summer my feelings for my female Muslim friend has grown, and so has her feelings for me.
So what to do as the man I am, I decided to speak with her father for advice ( with her blessing first of course) I would not discussed a topic this serious with her family without her knowing it.
So the issue of can or can't she see me or not as more then friends well it turn out that her father do not see it as a problem not do the rest of her family. But.... What do Islam teaching say. Well it is to me a bit fuzzy, but a bit difficult situation can be solved "very easy" as her father so gently put it convert or not convert
So now I know I am allowed to tell her my feelings and she can to me( sort of) and being alone with her at this stage is not very smart, because I do not want to make this bad for her or her family. In public I don't think we can be fully alone yet, fuzzy moment again
So next step is involving the mosque and see what the imam will say ( if he say no, I kick his butt....gently. But honestly inter spiritual relationship is not that easy
I am sure this OP will generate some tension and many questions, that is ok, but I can not answer everything because I honestly do not know how to reply yet.
She and her family are Sunni so I think if you are a Sunni your self it could help to answer some of the more fuzzy things for me.
And if you are not in to Islam or have an answer that help me, no need to reply, except if you have genuine good reason to ask of course
I do think 99% of the Muslims here will tell me to convert if I want to be with her we will see
Would you choose Islam, were it not for her? If the answer is no, then let love try to work itself out naturally, where you and she both remain true to yourselves and who you are. That's the only way for it to be a genuine relationship, when both parties are true to the themselves in it, not trying to fit another's ideal of who they would want you to be. People respect self-honesty in others.