Cuckold !

[FearGod]

Excuse me? I left his jealous dumb ***, not the other way around. Why would it be good for him to leave me? I had done nothing wrong. He was the one who became verbally and emotionally abusive due to his own insecurity and wild imagination.

Who said that you did something wrong?

 

[Draka]

In end you throw your husband not your male friend!


Your brother is your brother , no one in earth will blame you to hug him.

For me even I over trust my wife , I could not trust the others men

EDITED to add , Thank you and I appreciate that you share your life experience here

I'm not throwing away my husband by having male friends. He isn't throwing me away by having female friends. We're grown ups, we can have both.

And my ex-brother-in-law is not my brother, he is not related to me in any way now especially since I divorced his jerk of a brother. He is still my friend though, and always will be. See that's what I'm talking about. Friends can be as close as family. Someone who has stepped up and been there for you at your lowest. Do you throw that person away because they happen to be of the opposite sex to you? If it weren't for him I might not even be alive right now (won't be going into it) so there's no way I would ever say he wasn't a friend and important to me. If someone was that close to your wife, would you really forbid her from having a friendship with him?

 

[Draka]

Who said that you did something wrong?

It sounded as if you thought it was he who left me and that he had good reason to. You laughed and said it was good for him that he left me. What way should I take that if I took that wrong?

 

[Terrywoodenpic]

Disagreement all the line !

Trust and Jealous are not relate in this issue. I can trust my wife but I get jealous if someone try to contact her.

The man get jealous not because the lack of trust, he get jealous because he know what other men trying to do.

What does it matter what other men are trying to do if you trust your whife. She can have friendships with both other men and other women. Because people are friends does not mean that they have any intention or desire to have a sexual relationship.
It must be terrible to live in a society that thinks otherwise.

Do you suppose that every woman you see wants to jump into bed with you....? If so you are sadly mistaken.
Nor is it normal for a man to want to go to bed with every woman.

Some married people do break the rules, it would be better that they were not married. But mostly people can trust each other and the people they meet, that makes for a far nicer society than one based on mistrust. Like you are suggesting.

 

[FearGod]

It sounded as if you thought it was he who left me and that he had good reason to. You laughed and said it was good for him that he left me. What way should I take that if I took that wrong?

Why he needs to trust you? humans are animals and they can do any awful things.
Are you an angel?

 

[Godobeyer]

I'm not throwing away my husband by having male friends. He isn't throwing me away by having female friends. We're grown ups, we can have both.

And my ex-brother-in-law is not my brother, he is not related to me in any way now especially since I divorced his jerk of a brother. He is still my friend though, and always will be. See that's what I'm talking about. Friends can be as close as family. Someone who has stepped up and been there for you at your lowest. Do you throw that person away because they happen to be of the opposite sex to you? If it weren't for him I might not even be alive right now (won't be going into it) so there's no way I would ever say he wasn't a friend and important to me. If someone was that close to your wife, would you really forbid her from having a friendship with him?

As I understand he get jealous so he ask you to stop your relation with some male friends ?

So you throw him because of that? so your choice not to lose your friend , you choice to lose your husband instead.

For me I will not accept that my wife make contact with other males as FRIENDS, I told you before this kind of relation is not exist in my community. if it's exist it's would make problem which could lead to divorce. (as your case).

 

[Terrywoodenpic]

Yes people are angels

Who ever suggested that they were angels. Nor do they need to be.
they just need to respect each other.
It is far better than fear and distrust.

 

[Draka]

Why he needs to trust you? humans are animals and they can do any awful things.
Are you an angel?

I don't cheat. And, yes, he should have trusted me. If he didn't trust me he shouldn't have married me.

 

[Godobeyer]

What does it matter what other men are trying to do if you trust your whife. She can have friendships with both other men and other women. Because people are friends does not mean that they have any intention or desire to have a sexual relationship.
It must be terrible to live in a society that thinks otherwise.

Do you suppose that every woman you see wants to jump into bed with you....? If so you are sadly mistaken.
Nor is it normal for a man to want to go to bed with every woman.

Some married people do break the rules, it would be better that they were not married. But mostly people can trust each other and the people they meet, that makes for a far nicer society than one based on mistrust. Like you are suggesting.

We are living normal and stable life , without accusation or cheating in that way .

Again trust had nothing to do with jealous, you need to separate the two concepts to understand me.

Nor men nor women are angels , that's why there are cheating and divorce everywhere.

 

[FearGod]

I don't cheat. And, yes, he should have trusted me. If he didn't trust me he shouldn't have married me.

Yes it was his mistake from the beginning, but why you agree to marry him?

 

[Terrywoodenpic]

Why he needs to trust you? humans are animals and they can do any awful things.
Are you an angel?

What a horrible Idea...civilised men do not behave like animals... we have learnt self control, A concept you clearly do not understand.

 

[Draka]

As I understand he get jealous so he ask you to stop your relation with some male friends ?

So you throw him because of that? so your choice not to lose your friend , you choice to lose your husband instead.

For me I will not accept that my wife make contact with other males as FRIENDS, I told you before this kind of relation is not exist in my community. if it's exist it's would make problem which could lead to divorce. (as your case).

I divorced my ex-husband because he was a jealous controlling verbally and emotionally abusive ***. He'd yell at me, accuse me of things I didn't do, call me disgusting names. If I took longer than he thought it would take at the grocery store I was accused. If I smiled and said hello to a man in polite greeting I was "screwing" him. He called me names and accused me of all kinds of things and it was his brother, his own brother, that would tell him to knock it off and get after him for the way he treated me. There was nothing ever between me and his brother except for friendship and as soon as his brother started sticking up for me then we were accused together. My ex was a very very angry and insecure controlling person. So, yeah, I left him. I don't deserve that. No one does.

 

[Godobeyer]

I don't cheat. And, yes, he should have trusted me. If he didn't trust me he shouldn't have married me.

But since you married to man , why you choice to keep in contact with other males ?
and make them a favor over him ?

If you really love him you choice him, not your friends .?

 

[Draka]

Yes it was his mistake from the beginning, but why you agree to marry him?

Because I was stupid. I didn't see the green eyed monster come out of him until we were married. From that point on I was treated as his property. Oh, he was sweet and nice before we got married, then he acted like he bought me. I was blind, dumb and stupid to marry the cretin.

 

[FearGod]

Who ever suggested that they were angels. Nor do they need to be.
they just need to respect each other.
It is far better than fear and distrust.

If we do our business based on trust then many companies will go bankrupt.

 

[Draka]

But since you married to man , why you choice to keep in contact with other males ?
and make them a favor over him ?

If you love him really you choice him, not your friends .?

Because just because he was my husband that didn't give him the right to determine who I spoke to. A husband is a partner, not an owner. He wasn't my father, he had no right to forbid me from talking to my friends or anyone for that matter. He had no right to berate me and call me names. Being married doesn't give that right. Not at all.

 

[Terrywoodenpic]

We are living normal and stable life , without accusation or cheating in that way .

Again trust had nothing to do with jealous, you need to separate the two concepts to understand me.

Nor men nor women are angels , that's why there are cheating and divorce everywhere.

My wife and I were married for 43 years. We trusted each other we did not cheat. We had many friends. She died 12 years ago, I am still faithful to this day. Because some people cheat, is no reason to not trust your wife or to be jealous of her.

 

[Draka]

If we do our business based on trust then many companies will go bankrupt.

Do you view marriage as a business transaction? Or as a loving relationship between two people who wish to share their lives together?

 

[FearGod]

Because I was stupid. I didn't see the green eyed monster come out of him until we were married. From that point on I was treated as his property. Oh, he was sweet and nice before we got married, then he acted like he bought me. I was blind, dumb and stupid to marry the cretin.

He was stupid as well for not knowing you before marriage.

 

[FearGod]

Do you view marriage as a business transaction? Or as a loving relationship between two people who wish to share their lives together?

Why the contract?