Cuckold !

[Godobeyer]

It's this simple: if your wife hugs another man, you are not a cuckold. If your wife has sex with another man, you are a cuckold.

Thanks for this explaination
In my community if a wife hugs other man (not relative) or had friend is could consider as cuckold, so we had different limites!

 

[Godobeyer]

Is cuckold, to you, something that is just used to define men as victims of infidelity? What of women? Is there a term for women who are the victims? When it is the man who is cheating?

The man who cheat is cheater without doubt.

 

[Poisonshady313]

Is cuckold, to you, something that is just used to define men as victims of infidelity?

Not just to me. To Merriam Webster.

What of women? Is there a term for women who are the victims? When it is the man who is cheating?

I don't know. If there isn't, I suppose there ought to be. I'll look into it.

 

[Draka]

Thanks for this explaination
In my community if a wife hugs other man (not relative) or had friend is could consider as cuckold, so we had different limites!

Is it looked upon as just as bad if a man has a friend who is a woman? You speak as if it is such a shameful thing for her to do, that it brings shame to her husband, but if a husband were to hug a female friend is it considered just as shameful? Does he bring shame to his wife?

 

[Poisonshady313]

Ah so she forced him to be cuckold by cheating on him,

Your sentence should end here. There is no "and".

how about who accept that his wife make relation with other,as volunteer ?

Some people's sexual fetishes involve pain and humiliation.

 

[Poisonshady313]

Is cuckold, to you, something that is just used to define men as victims of infidelity? What of women? Is there a term for women who are the victims? When it is the man who is cheating?

Cuckquean is a gender opposite term of cuckold derived from Middle English (1562 CE).

Cuckquean refers to a woman with an adulterous husband. In modern English it generally refers to the sexual fetish in which sexual gratification is gained from maintenance or observation of sexual relations by a man with a woman or a number of women besides his girlfriend, fiancé, wife or other long-term female sex partner, and therefore, the reversed gender roles of a cuckold relationship.

Wikipedia

 

[LuisDantas]

I think it is ultimately a private matter. Each couple will know what they accept and what they do not, and they should talk with each other about those limits.

 

[Draka]

Cuckquean is a gender opposite term of cuckold derived from Middle English (1562 CE).

Cuckquean refers to a woman with an adulterous husband. In modern English it generally refers to the sexual fetish in which sexual gratification is gained from maintenance or observation of sexual relations by a man with a woman or a number of women besides his girlfriend, fiancé, wife or other long-term female sex partner, and therefore, the reversed gender roles of a cuckold relationship.

Wikipedia

Interesting. I wonder why this isn't as heard of as much.

 

[Godobeyer]

Is it looked upon as just as bad if a man has a friend who is a woman? You speak as if it is such a shameful thing for her to do, that it brings shame to her husband, but if a husband were to hug a female friend is it considered just as shameful? Does he bring shame to his wife?

I am talking about my way of life.

here It's could be consider a scandel and shameful IF some one let his wife hug or dance with other men (not relatives).
in my conservative community. thats definetly a scandel !

 

[Poisonshady313]

I am talking about my way of life.

here It's could be consider a scandel and shameful IF some one let his wife hug or dance with other men (not relatives).
in my conservative community. thats definetly a scandel !

Is it considered unfaithful? Is it considered cheating?

 

[Draka]

I am talking about my way of life.

here It's could be consider a scandel and shameful IF some one let his wife hug or dance with other men (not relatives).
in my conservative community. thats definetly a scandel !

But is it just as much a scandal if it is the man who is doing those things?

 

[Godobeyer]

Is it considered unfaithful? Is it considered cheating?

If he saw her hug/dance with other man , he don't agree with that , that considered unfaithful and cheating,

If he don't saw her hug/dance with other man,he don't agree with that that consider also unfaithful and cheating

If he saw her hug/dance with other man ,and he never mind with that , he considered as cuckold , in view of the community.

all 3 above is considered as scandel and shamefull in view of community (here).

 

[Godobeyer]

But is it just as much a scandal if it is the man who is doing those things?

Of course it's a scandal, and his wife would not accept that.

 

[Terrywoodenpic]

There are many factures of break up between couples,indeed one of them is jealousy,when someone be a jealous in ALL cases (over-reactions), also one of them is over trust/careless which lead to cuckold, thats leading to cheat.

Jealousy could be good just reason in some case (for some people) to break-up, and start over with his rival !

Jealousy is normal emotion toward someone you love, it's BIG sign of love.

you are absolutely wrong.
it is not normal, it is a mental aberration
It is never a sign of love
it shows lack of trust not over trust.
you can not love someone and distrust them.

 

[Godobeyer]

you are absolutely wrong.
it is not normal, it is a mental aberration
It is never a sign of love
it shows lack of trust not over trust.
you can not love someone and distrust them.

Disagreement all the line !

Trust and Jealous are not relate in this issue. I can trust my wife but I get jealous if someone try to contact her.

The man get jealous not because the lack of trust, he get jealous because he know what other men trying to do.

 

[FearGod]

you are absolutely wrong.
it is not normal, it is a mental aberration
It is never a sign of love
it shows lack of trust not over trust.
you can not love someone and distrust them.

Yes people are angels

 

[Godobeyer]

This is so true. Every word. My previous husband was a very jealous man. I could barely speak to another man and I was peppered with questions, accusations. I wasn't cheating on him or doing anything wrong, but it didn't matter. His jealousy, his insecurity, his accusations, they did nothing but destroy us. To me, a friend is a friend. Running into a friend you haven't seen in a long time and stopping to chat with them is normal. It shouldn't matter if that person is a guy or a girl. I ran into an old friend at a laundromat once and we decided to grab lunch together and catch up. It happened to be a guy, and when I casually mention the whole "oh, guess who I ran into today" thing with my husband, he lost his ****. I did nothing wrong, sitting and eating and chatting with someone isn't wrong, and I would have done the same thing with a female friend, but to him...I was a whoring cheating **** who was obviously screwing anything with a penis. I couldn't take it. His jealously, his innuendos, his insecurity. I couldn't take being blamed for things I didn't do, being treated as if I had. Feeling watched and criticized at every turn. It's horrible. jealousy can fuel abuse. Even if not physical, the emotional is still there.

If you had husband , why you care about other men friendships ?

It's seems you choice your friend relation more than your husband relation ?

 

[Godobeyer]

Yes people are angels

Men are angels , they just have pen

 

[Draka]

LOL, good for him that he left you.

Excuse me? I left his jealous dumb ***, not the other way around. Why would it be good for him to leave me? I had done nothing wrong. He was the one who became verbally and emotionally abusive due to his own insecurity and wild imagination.

If you had husband , why you care about other men friendships ?

It's seems you choice your friend relation more than your husband relation ?

Oh, friends mean nothing to you at all that you would have no problem throwing them away? That's how much you care about people? I'm sorry, but I don't throw people away like used tissues just because the man in my life is an insecure little jealous twit. I have a romantic relationship with a man because I love him and want to share my life with him. I have a friendship relationship with a man, just like I would with a woman, because I find his friendship dear to me. Any real man, secure in himself, would have no issue with his wife having a male friend.

My ex-brother-in-law moved a few states away and I haven't seen him for quite sometime. If he were to move back here and I ran into him I would hug him fiercely. And there is no man on Gaia's green Earth that any man would tell me not to. There's no way that my husband now would stop me. In fact, he'd probably openly welcome him into our home and thank him for being such a good friend to me and getting me through some of the worst time of my life. Then again, my husband is secure in himself and our relationship. He has no reason to be jealous at all.

 

[Godobeyer]

Oh, friends mean nothing to you at all that you would have no problem throwing them away? That's how much you care about people? I'm sorry, but I don't throw people away like used tissues just because the man in my life is an insecure little jealous twit. I have a romantic relationship with a man because I love him and want to share my life with him. I have a friendship relationship with a man, just like I would with a woman, because I find his friendship dear to me. Any real man, secure in himself, would have no issue with his wife having a male friend.

My ex-brother-in-law moved a few states away and I haven't seen him for quite sometime. If he were to move back here and I ran into him I would hug him fiercely. And there is no man on Gaia's green Earth that any man would tell me not to. There's no way that my husband now would stop me. In fact, he'd probably openly welcome him into our home and thank him for being such a good friend to me and getting me through some of the worst time of my life. Then again, my husband is secure in himself and our relationship. He has no reason to be jealous at all.

In end you throw your husband not your male friend!


Your brother is your brother , no one in earth will blame you to hug him.

For me even IF I over trust my wife , I could not trust the others men

EDITED to add , Thank you and I appreciate that you share your life experience here