Polygamy Immoral?

[Storm]

I didn't do that to them.

Who did?

I was being facetious.

Well, it's pretty hard to tell with some of the other things you've said.

 

[Kathryn]

Kathryn, read that post back to yourself as if it were being said to you by a polygamous person. Whether you mean to or not, you're being pushy, and that's why you're getting the responses you are.

It wouldn't bother me if a polygamous person said that to me. In fact, I'd LOVE to sit down and pick their brain. I think it would be very interesting. Much more interesting than reading other people's imaginings about the polygamous lifestyle.

Besides that, these other responses don't bother me. I don't mind a push back. It helps me understand their mindsets also.

I am sorry if I have offended anyone though. That's not my intention.

 

[Kathryn]

Besides that - I don't see anyone else in here freely admitting and taking responsibility for their own MAJOR mistakes in life.

 

[DallasApple]

And YES, if my husband came home and said, "Hey...been thinkin' about adding another woman to the mix..." that would make me very defensive. Well, it would also make me...err, gone. He'd have to find TWO more wives, not one more.

But we know that about you.Your also not gay right?

And then?

Love

Dallas

 

[Nanda]

It wouldn't bother me if a polygamous person said that to me. In fact, I'd LOVE to sit down and pick their brain.

We have a thread for that.

Though it's in the Eros room...

 

[Nanda]

Besides that - I don't see anyone else in here freely admitting and taking responsibility for their own MAJOR mistakes in life.

I haven't made any yet. Unless I'm making one now. But I won't know that until later.

 

[Kathryn]

But that's a topic for another thread - maybe I'll start that one.

 

[Nanda]

But that's a topic for another thread - maybe I'll start that one.

You should, that's an interesting topic.

 

[Storm]

Besides that - I don't see anyone else in here freely admitting and taking responsibility for their own MAJOR mistakes in life.

Didn't I say that I found out the hard way that poly is not for me? (I don't feel like reviewing the whole thread to find out, but I usually do when the subject comes up.) It was disastrous (both times!), but I don't think posting the lurid details is appropriate in a thread where I'm trying to show my support for the minority who make it work.

Suffice to say I have the greatest admiration for Nanda and her partners' maturity and expansive capacity to love.

My hat's off to you all, girl! :hug:

 

[Kathryn]

I haven't made any yet. Unless I'm making one now. But I won't know that until later.

Well, give it time.

 

[Storm]

Well, give it time.

Now, see, that was just mean.

 

[Kathryn]

You should, that's an interesting topic.

Hopefully I can get to that this weekend. I think it's a great topic!

 

[Kathryn]

Now, see, that was just mean.

I'm talking about MAJOR MISTAKES- don't we all make them eventually?

 

[Nanda]

Well, give it time.

Maybe. But then again, as my boyfriend just pointed out as I was reading your post to him, maybe not. Maybe it's a question of how we view things - maybe I've made what others would percieve as major life mistakes, but I just view them as learning experiences and move on. There's nothing in my life that's happened, good or bad, that hasn't shaped who I am today in some way, and I like who I am.

But again, off topic, and probably best saved for another thread.

 

[Nanda]

My hat's off to you all, girl! :hug:

Thank you, Storm. :hug:
Have I mentioned what a wonderful, supportive community RF has been as a whole?

 

[DallasApple]

Unless you meet all the standards for "normalcy" in the area where you live, you run the risk of your children being ostricized. That's the sad reality of the world. And even if you think you've done everything "right," there's still a very real chance that your kid is going to get ostracized anyway. That's life, and it sucks, but you learn to live with it, raise your kids the best you can, and move on.

I undertand Nanda..Im just saying right now?..If a child says..I have one dad and 3 moms??You think his dad has been married 3 SEPERATE times.

If the child says no..they are all married together now...there is no black skin or white..there is not fat and ugly..there is no poor..there is no ADHD or bi-polar or asspergers..everything melts away..and your talking to a kid that has a dad that has 3 wives..and you go tunnel vision on that.

Do you understand what Im saying?

Its "special".Not to get in a competion over "specialness"..but I dont think twice anymore over fat kids.My kids are all fat.So are many many many other kids.If someone tells me their kid has been diagnosed at 6 with bi-polar I roll my eyes and say.." so ..who isnt these days".

Love

Dallas

 

[DallasApple]

Besides that - I don't see anyone else in here freely admitting and taking responsibility for their own MAJOR mistakes in life.

Why are you talking about "major mistakes" in life?

How is that related to this topic?

Love

Dallas

 

[Kathryn]

Why are you talking about "major mistakes" in life?

How is that related to this topic?

Love

Dallas

Very indirectly - that's why I said I would move that to another thread.

 

[Kathryn]

Thank you for furthering my point...

DON'T COMPROMISE YOUR VALUES.

You disagree with this statement?

DON'T SETTLE.

You think people should "settle" rather than set a standard for their relationships with others and then hold out for the person who agrees with that standard?

DON'T PUT YOUR FAITH IN MANKIND, PUT YOUR FAITH IN GOD. TRUST HIM.

You may not agree with that, but that's my own personal belief. I have more faith in God than I do in humans.

SEEK WISDOM. YOU WILL BE REWARDED.

You disagree with THIS? Wow.

 

[DallasApple]

DON'T COMPROMISE YOUR VALUES.

You disagree with this statement?

DON'T SETTLE.

You think people should "settle" rather than set a standard for their relationships with others and then hold out for the person who agrees with that standard?

DON'T PUT YOUR FAITH IN MANKIND, PUT YOUR FAITH IN GOD. TRUST HIM.

You may not agree with that, but that's my own personal belief. I have more faith in God than I do in humans.

SEEK WISDOM. YOU WILL BE REWARDED.

You disagree with THIS? Wow.

I agree with all of it myself.

But again why is that not applicable to a person who is in a poly relationship?

Love

Dallas