the same action of love for self is expected in the same action of love for other as self. what will this other do when self isn't present? you have failed. we aren't expected to carry those who can walk and refuse to walk. we expect all selves to walk that are able. i could use the logic that i refuse to walk and someone then must carry me. again that isn't loving, it's selfish. that isn't having the same expectation of other as self.
allow me to present it to you in another way, the golden rule can be expressed as service to all as self. what then are the expectations of self for self? that rule then applies to all selves. not exclusively to this self vs that self. the golden rule says do unto others
as you would have done unto you. it doesn't say do unto others as they would have you do. offering love is not necessarily reciprocated in love. selfishness, abuse, neglect, are not acceptable from either polarity of self or other as self.
here is where you and other as self diverge and disagree.
again if self is able then other as self is capable if able. there is no difference in action even if there is a difference in form.
loving your neighbor and abusing or neglecting self doesn't follow the golden rule, to love other as self is to require the action from both points of a straight line being in balance. one is not required to do more/less for other as self.
to idolize self is to demean other as self. to idolize other as self is to devalue self.
we all have the power to love. when we use that power wisely and without respect to persons we create a butterfly effect. love makes it to rain on friend or foe.