Someone used to treat me awfully – it was an abusive and controlling “friendship” from which I’ve now escaped. I’ve written about it in this thread, see the following link:
Abusive And Controlling "Friendships"?
Someone said I should forgive the person in question, that doing so would bring me peace. And I think he/she was right – it would be a way of letting go and moving on, which would be the ultimate triumph
I believe this would be the Christian thing to do
I would probably not identify myself as a Christian, but much of my ethical system is Christian-inspired
However, I hate this person’s guts and resent the fact that he isn’t dead
And yet every Sunday I say the words “…as we forgive those who trespass against us…”
I want to be able to forgive him but this goes against all the contempt and ill-will I feel towards him!
I believe that a good person should behave compassionately towards their enemies and those who wrong them and I want to be such a good person, I just don’t feel as though I can forgive him, especially as I know he doesn’t think he’s done anything wrong - or knows but doesn't care!
So... I want to forgive but I can’t – any ideas that might help me become able to forgive?
Abusive And Controlling "Friendships"?
Someone said I should forgive the person in question, that doing so would bring me peace. And I think he/she was right – it would be a way of letting go and moving on, which would be the ultimate triumph
I believe this would be the Christian thing to do
I would probably not identify myself as a Christian, but much of my ethical system is Christian-inspired
However, I hate this person’s guts and resent the fact that he isn’t dead
And yet every Sunday I say the words “…as we forgive those who trespass against us…”
I want to be able to forgive him but this goes against all the contempt and ill-will I feel towards him!
I believe that a good person should behave compassionately towards their enemies and those who wrong them and I want to be such a good person, I just don’t feel as though I can forgive him, especially as I know he doesn’t think he’s done anything wrong - or knows but doesn't care!
So... I want to forgive but I can’t – any ideas that might help me become able to forgive?