Mom Died Recently

[RedDragon94]

May you feel God near you in this time of mourning.

 

[Sunstone]

May you feel God near you in this time of mourning.

Thank you, RD. That's very kind of you.

 

[Tmac]

Yes, I heard my grandfather say that a person's debt to the mother is forty times that of the father. Orthodox Hindus.

I would like to know the reason behind the thought "forty times"? I find it hard (I don't think of it as a debt, I don't understand the word like he would) to keep my balance if I don't see them as equal.

 

[England my lionheart]

My condolences,sounds an amazing woman.

 

[Sunstone]

My condolences,sounds an amazing woman.

Thanks,. England. I'm a bit biased as her son, of course, but she began amazing me when I finally got old enough to quit taking her for granted -- and empathize with some of the things she'd been through in her life.

 

[England my lionheart]

Thanks,. England. I'm a bit biased as her son, of course, but she began amazing me when I finally got old enough to quit taking her for granted -- and empathize with some of the things she'd been through in her life.

I get that,we all have taken them for granted but they wouldn't have it any other way.

 

[Sunstone]

I get that,we all have taken them for granted but they wouldn't have it any other way.

That's a comforting thought!

 

[Mister Silver]

We never truly lose those we love, even in death. They live on in our memories and our hearts, but especially in how we emulate them in how we treat others. May she forever be a part of you @Sunstone .

 

[Aupmanyav]

I would like to know the reason behind the thought "forty times"? I find it hard (I don't think of it as a debt, I don't understand the word like he would) to keep my balance if I don't see them as equal.

Sorry, I do not know where is that mentioned but that is what my learned and orthodox grandfather said. He was a strange mixture of tradition and modernity. He wrote a Dharma Shastra (Law book for Hindus - Vishweshwara Smriti; 8,000 verses in Sanskrit, as recently as 1950), accepted Big-Bang, 92 elements, plate tectonics, evolution, fossils, supported window marriage and favored teaching to unprivileged (dalits). I too am like that, modern as well as traditional (and a strong atheist to boot).

 

[Sunstone]

We never truly lose those we love, even in death. They live on in our memories and our hearts, but especially in how we emulate them in how we treat others. May she forever be a part of you @Sunstone .

Thank you for your kind wishes, MS. I see her in my brothers and myself.

 

[Tmac]

Sorry, I do not know where is that mentioned but that is what my learned and orthodox grandfather said. He was a strange mixture of tradition and modernity. He wrote a Dharma Shastra (Law book for Hindus - Vishweshwara Smriti; 8,000 verses in Sanskrit), accepted Big-Bang, 92 elements, plate tectonics, evolution, fossils, supported window marriage and favored teaching to unprivileged (dalits). I too am like that, modern as well as traditional (and a strong atheist to boot).

Window marriage?

 

[savagewind]

It is a beautiful tribute you have written about your mother.
Now I think I know how you are such a beautiful person.
She did you good!

 

[The Kilted Heathen]

Cattle die, | and kinsmen die,
And so one dies one’s self;
But a noble name | will never die,
If good renown one gets.

~Hávamál s.77

Miss her, but don't mourn for her. Keep her memory dear, and she'll never be truly gone.

 

[DavidFirth]

May God rest her soul and comfort yours and your family's. So sorry to hear about this.

 

[SalixIncendium]

I'm so sorry for your loss. She sounded like a very wonderful woman. You are truly privileged to have such a great person for a mother.

 

[Deeje]

That was a beautiful tribute to a life well lived @Sunstone.
We can all love our Moms just for fulfilling their caring and nurturing role from birth to adulthood, but not everyone has the privilege of respecting them for their strengths and achievements outside of that role. How amazing to discover so many more than you ever knew about. Like finding buried treasures.

As one caring for my own mother in her nineties, I too have amazing things to recount about her life and experiences....and her incredible strength in the face of overwhelming tragedy.....I cannot imagine my life without her.
I guess this is when our beliefs sustain us.

Grief is like a dark tunnel....of undetermined length. We enter, but no one knows how long we will take to see the light and emerge from the other side.

May you have peace and continue to keep your mother's wonderful legacy in your heart.

 

[Aupmanyav]

Window marriage?

I am sorry. Windows intrudes everywhere. I have yet not moved to Linux.

 

[Sunstone]

It is a beautiful tribute you have written about your mother.
Now I think I know how you are such a beautiful person.
She did you good!

Thank you for your very kind compliments, SW!

 

[Sunstone]

Cattle die, | and kinsmen die,
And so one dies one’s self;
But a noble name | will never die,
If good renown one gets.

~Hávamál s.77

Miss her, but don't mourn for her. Keep her memory dear, and she'll never be truly gone.

Thank you for your kind advice, RP.

 

[Sunstone]

May God rest her soul and comfort yours and your family's. So sorry to hear about this.

Thanks, David. I much appreciate it.