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I've never actually told my parents in a direct way that I was bisexual and I just wrote them and e-mail and told them. Having a slight panic attack.
so what'd they say?
That's a reasonably positive response. Perhaps your father was writing on behalf of them both? Or are they separated?
Dad was fine with it -- in fact they both knew. He was very sweet and sent me a loving e-mail. Mom is still incredibly religious and hasn't responded and probably won't, even though she knew.
I've never actually told my parents in a direct way that I was bisexual and I just wrote them and e-mail and told them. Having a slight panic attack.
Congrats on your courage but I have a question on this whole "coming out" thing. If this is truly how you feel and truly who you are, why would it make any difference how anyone else in the world feels about it? Shouldn't your sexual orientation be you business?
Because it means a lot to be able to share your family and friends with the person you love, and vice versa. It can also be simply to be honest about who you are - keeping secrets is often a psychological burden. I know in my instance it also felt very empowering because I had taken control - I didn't have to worry about "what if x finds out about this?".
Your question would be like saying, your spouse is your own business and you don't need to tell anyone about him/her. True enough, but in my view a miserable way to live and to love.
I think you may have missed my point.When you discover who you really are it makes no difference if others know and/or accept you. Unless, that is, you feel that others should be forced to embrace you with opened arms no matter what. That's not the world we live in. To speak to your analogy concerning my spouse, it is definitely my business I couldn't careless who knows. Trust me, after forty years together I've never been miserable.
I think you may have missed my point.When you discover who you really are it makes no difference if others know and/or accept you. Unless, that is, you feel that others should be forced to embrace you with opened arms no matter what. That's not the world we live in. To speak to your analogy concerning my spouse, it is definitely my business I couldn't careless who knows. Trust me, after forty years together I've never been miserable.
For many of us, keeping quiet about personal issues would be burdensome indeed.I think you may have missed my point.When you discover who you really are it makes no difference if others know and/or accept you. Unless, that is, you feel that others should be forced to embrace you with opened arms no matter what. That's not the world we live in. To speak to your analogy concerning my spouse, it is definitely my business I couldn't careless who knows. Trust me, after forty years together I've never been miserable.
That's both largely untrue and simply a false dichotomy. Feeling accepted and part of a unit, whether it be friends or family, is of great emotional and psychological benefit. Though I'm sure some people would be happy to be a couple (or more) in isolation to the rest of the world (or some element of it), I'm sure most people would be happy not having to compartmentalise to such an extreme degree. This speaks nothing of forced acceptance - there's no obligation for people to accept my sexuality (though, I reserve the right to see it as a dark mark on their character). I don't know why you leapt to that.
I'm glad you have a happy marriage - I'm sure you like to shout to the world how lucky you are. Perhaps you can understand that many gay people seek to be able to do the same.