I had to look up apophatic and cataphatic in a Google search but they sound like a sort of a lecture about going on a journey rather than the description of a journey itself which involves no approach and no choice.
They're simply technical terms for different approaches to contemplative practice. Cataphatic is where you actively hold an imagine in mind and meditate upon that, entering within it so to speak. Apophatic is where you empty the mind of all images, ideas, expectations, etc. (what you were describing). These are techniques that people either are just doing naturally in meditation, or are very specifically practiced towards a certain goal, or result.
Of course the journey itself cannot be taught. As the saying goes, the map of the terrain is not the terrain itself. But I would disagree there is no choice in the matter. One can easily withdraw himself from God in practice. We do so when we allow ourselves to be distracted, looking to our ideas, our expectations, our fears, our beliefs, etc. It how we avoid God, by avoiding the end of ourselves. To willfully put yourself to death in this manner, so to speak, is most definitely a choice, through which you can then rightly say, "I live, yet not I, but Christ in me". That doesn't really happen before that complete laying down of oneself, and that doesn't happen unless we choose to do that.
I will say that at the beginning of the journey after an amazing awakening I read everything there was to read about the experiences of others and can laugh now at being naive in a self-centered way but 25 years later I can forgive myself the notion that I was ascending up to some spiritual level instead of realizing that it is a process of becoming more human and more intimate with the encompassing life that surrounds us.
I relate in some regards, but my experience was different in that I had no idea what this was and was looking to others to tell me how to find this path home again (to something it turns out they had no experience in themselves). My path was one more of frustration and confusion with the lack of true freedom to be found in these teachings of others, using all the right words, but in an inadequate context. I really never had a place to be proud of my "accomplishments" spiritually, as I never really grew much beginning where they were at.
Eventually, through beginning a meditation practice freed from the constrictions of their bubble they created of theologies and beliefs, that opening into what began this journey for me was right there as in the beginning. I mused with myself, "Now I begin where I began 30 years ago." Through this then I have come to see the nature of where different people are on their spiritual paths. It's not that they were "wrong", per se, but in all honesty that awakening experience I had that began all this, was beyond where they were at. Even though I was incredibly naive about things spiritual and religious, my experience had opened to me something that was beyond where they were at. It was sort of like being at a highschool sort of understanding taking classes in an elementary school class.
I'm not saying that to speak pridefully, but there simply is a path of growth that occurs where certain knowledge comes later. It just so happened, that even though I never had any schooling at all, that "lightening bolt" blew the roof off my collapsed world and exposed what was beyond all descriptions. In other words, I began with that knowledge of God, and had to take a step back a bit to begin with a few elementary school classes. The problem is, that's all they knew and understood. I had to keep going on my path outside their classroom.
Had I exposure to others who understood the nature of these things, had I read about them, etc., would I have become "puffed up" back then? Hard to say. Maybe so. It's a different history and would be a different me. Probably because I did suffer self-esteem issues, and those that have that will often "weaponize" their attributes to see themselves as having power in the face of fear. I'm describing pride of course.
In short, the returning pilgrim has something to say about the modern world and the pretense couched in academic bluffing and voodoo and it is time to recover something that was lost among Christians and other spiritual people in a practical way. It is that part of humanity that really needs to be addressed by facing a part of physical experience people fear or see as irrelevant due to generational prejudices.
I believe I hear what you are saying. I think people have rightly cast off these mythic-literal systems which keep one's spirituality tied to that elementary school classroom I described. The problem is, there is no home in the mainline, fundamentalist religion. So in order to embrace our rational natures, in order to not deny our own minds, they rightly reject it and throw out the baby of spirituality with the bathwater of myth. A choice is made to reclaim reason and reject anything related to a spiritual path, because that is the choice religion is presenting them!
It comes full circle back to this discussion about sola scriptura. The claim that we have to follow what the Bible says in order to be "saved", has a hidden message embedded within it which says you have to read it in the context of mythic-literal understandings! That's crap, to be blunt. If someone lives in a different context, they will not, and cannot any longer read it that way, as a child reads it and sees God like Santa Claus, or the Great Magician in the Sky, sort of literal view. God can in fact be understood in a rational context, knowing that God is a description of the transcendent. Which is not saying one can know God through reason and rationality, but that reason and rationality can understand the nature of God as transcendent to human reason, which includes all these mythic-literal depictions.
That is what is lacking in religion, is that voice that says you can explore the knowledge of God, legitimately, honoring your own traditions if you wish, by simply advancing your own spiritual understanding through an actual spiritual practice. It's like Jesus said, "Make clean the inside of the cup first". That's where growth occurs. That when you begin to see that the beliefs are really simply support structures, scaffoldings we climb upon that hold up the building of ourselves we are erecting, through reaching to God. But that scaffolding eventually is no longer needed, and in the meantime should not be mistaken as that building itself. It's simply tools that serve a purpose, but not the essence of the structure itself.
"Some of the brethren raise a question concerning the motion of
heaven, whether it is fixed or moved. If it is moved, they say, how is
it a firmament? If it stands still, how do these stars which are held
fixed in it go round from east to west, the more northerly performing
shorter circuits near the pole, so that the heaven (if there is
another pole unknown to us) may seem to revolve upon some axis, or (if
there is no other pole) may be thought to move as a discus? To these
men I reply that it would require many subtle and profound reasonings
to find out which of these things is actually so; but to undertake
this and discuss it is consistent neither with my leisure nor with the
duty of those whom I desire to instruct in essential matters more
directly conducing to their salvation and to the benefit of the holy
Church." St Augustine
That's a great quote, but I would challenge it in today's context to not exclude the value and benefit to having a scientific understanding. I believe the whole person, mind, body, and spirit must be addressed. I do not believe that the denial of the body or mind results in a spiritually whole person. I believe in both a path of ascension, and a path of descension. We reach to knowledge of God, and into the world as it is, not in denial of it. It is as Jesus said the two great commandments that the entirety of a spiritual path depend on is to first connect to God, and secondly to enter with that Source into the world. That to me is what the incarnation is, in all of us.