If they weren't sent by The Evil, then why didn't they feel the same way I did?
If the devil is responsible for this, then the devil is responsible for the creation of the world and every living thing in it.
Go sit in a park and watch some pigeons for a while. Note how the boy pigeons fluff themselves up and try to mount the girl pigeons, while the girl pigeons look irritable and scurry away from them.
You could perceive it as an example of the creator's wisdom that female animals (including humans) are pickier about mating than males. The female is usually the primary caregiver for any resulting offspring, so if she wants her offspring to be [___ insert quality here___] she has to pick a mate that has those qualities. Male animals, on the other hand, need to be "good to go" any time they have the good fortune to be picked by a female, or there won't be any mating, or offspring.
So, when you fluff yourself up and take a run at a female and she gets irritable and scurries away, do as the pigeons do and just pick another female. Eventually you'll find one who is willing.
If their hormones were compatible with mine, how were my hormones not compatible with theirs?
What's with all this talk about hormones? If it was all hormones, the boy pigeons wouldn't need to fluff themselves up and chase girl pigeons. They could just sit quietly on the head of a statue and wait for a female to turn up, irresistibly drawn by the power of boy pigeon hormones.
But it's never clear that they're not interested. In fact, usually the heart ripping comes shortly after giving a sign that things will be ok.
I think the fact it's never clear to you might come down to the Aspergers. They might feel they've been
very clear with body language or subtle hints that you have not understood or interpreted correctly. The fact is, body language and subtle hints would usually be enough to make it pretty obvious. They are probably surprised to discover their strategy for showing "not interested" - one that always works, except with drunks and idiots (and especially drunken idiots) - doesn't communicate that message to sober, intelligent you.
I don't know what you can do about that, to be honest. Maybe enlist the help of a friend who is better at reading body language and subtle hints so he can tell you whether he thinks you've got a clear shot before you lay your heart on the line. (Actually, a girl friend would be better).
Isn't that what a crush is? Or is that real love I'm thinking of?
You don't know real love yet. All you know is crushes, and the whirlwind of emotional intensity and melodrama that goes with being a teenager.
You mean you felt that, or they told you that? (Why were you dating christian fundies anyway?
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Yeh, I've been told the devil sent me to tempt a guy. I didn't know they were fundies when I started dating them, and by then I couldn't say "Oh, you're a Christian? Never mind then."
Why can't girls just put more effort into making sense? If they aren't tools used by The Evil, then why can't they just tell me plainly that they don't want to date me (and not give any hints suggesting to the contrary later)?
Sweetie, they're probably not giving you "hints to the contrary". They probably like you as a person. They just don't want to be your girlfriend.
BTW, I would never consider being the girlfriend of any guy who thinks girls are tools of the Devil. (Not again, anyway). No girl ever would. You need to work that out, and soon.