I think it's fair to demand that the religious defend their beliefs as not being mere superstitions. If they can't, that is a clear indication that they should question said beliefs and get to the bottom of what made them start believing in the first place and whether that reasoning is sound. That is ALWAYS beneficial for EVERYONE.
When you make a claim of fact, you are required logically to support that claim with evidence in order for anyone else to take your claim seriously. Do you really think that's unfair?
Yes, it's fair to ask me to defend my position on God. Yes, it's fair for you to challenge any beliefs of mine which are based on my belief in God, Christ, the Bible, the Book of Mormon, etc. However, let me try to explain my point of frustration.
We may have a thread called: "Prove that God exists" or "Prove Christianity" or "Prove Mormonism". If I engage on such a thread I would:
- Explain why I believe in God. I'd use the argument of intelligent design. I'd discuss the validity of witnesses. I'd discuss my own personal experiences which I consider to be personal revelations. I'd discuss answers to prayers and on and on. But, in the end, the non-believer would explain it all away. I'd state that I can't prove God to anyone, but he has proven himself to me. The debate would end. This has repeated itself thousands of times.
- Explain why I believe in Christ. I'd reason on why the Bible is accurate history. I'd discuss the validity of eye witnesses. I'd discuss my personal spiritual experiences and reflections on Christ and how I came to have a "spiritual witness". Non-believers would challenge my points and in the end it would remain as a matter of personal conviction, personal witness, and faith. I would not have satisfied those who want infallible scientific proof using the scientific method.
- Explain why I believe that Jesus appeared in modern times to direct the restoration of his church and to bring forth the Book of Mormon. Arguments would be similar with similar results and conclusions.
I've done the above many times on this site. And I may do so again in response to threads that specifically ask for those points of view and reasoning. But, I don't want to do go through all of the above arguments on every thread that deals with a religious viewpoint.
For example, suppose we have a thread that says "prove that premarital sex is bad". The main reason that I believe it's wrong, is because it's prohibited by scripture, the Bible, and the Book or Mormon. I can argue that sex is sacred and ordained by God to be used in certain circumstances only. I can formulate a logical argument, but that argument will be based on assumptions about the existence of God and his character and divine will. Inevitably, I will be asked to first prove there is a God, then prove the God of Abraham, then more specifically prove the Christian God, and then the Bible. And so, a discussion on the right or wrong of premarital sex turns into a thread on "Prove that God exists."
Take another example. Someone starts a thread and says that the Christian notion of human sacrifice is absurd. Well, I believe it's not absurd that God sent his Son to die for our sins. But most of my insights into the subject are based on what the scriptures have to say about it. I find those scriptures to be logically consistent, profound, and spiritually satisfying. But, in the end, if the atheist discredits those scriptures as unproven, then we can go nowhere in demonstrating the need for a Savior. And I'm dragged into "Here we go again... another debate on the existence of God."
Perhaps if a thread read like this: "To Christians: can you make a case against premarital sex using secular arguments only?" I would then make the case without reference to God or the Bible. I could discuss statistics etc, on the negative results of premarital sex. But for me, those arguments would not reflect the depth of my feelings on the subject, since I would be ignoring my faith for debate purposes only.
Suppose a thread asks if religion generally is good or bad. It's impossible for me to respond and to include my reasons without my referencing my faith. In that case, I don't plan to prove my faith is true, rather I'm simply answering the question and explaining why I believe so. I might also quote scriptures to explain. If the reader is not interested in my reasoning from a religious perspective, then my response is of no value to that person. If the reader wants to take me back to "Prove that God exists", I'm not interested, at least not in that thread.
So, how do folks expect me to interact with atheists on almost any religious subject, without it going back to the same demand that I prove the existence of God? (And my questions and points don't necessarily apply only to atheists).