Lose lose is right, I'm not sure why this last year politics got so ugly between everyone. It will not be me that brings it up, but it is a sore spot with me. My job (teacher) vs. their job (cop). I'm a teacher, work with people who have been unjustly accused, get pulled over more than their fair share, the whole thing was not about Floyd - that was just a catalyst for everything that had been building and building. Judge, jury, and executioner all in one vs. the right to a fair trial. There are good cops, but there are a few who are not so good.... as in any profession there are those who are not so good.
As a cop, they are on the blue lives team.... As someone who went through police busting down doors, causing panic attacks, taking over our school over a car backfiring... Example, I work late, was chatting with an officer after work - they told me how they almost shot someone on campus. They came up on a car that had bullet holes in the back (common - just hill-billy stuff). The door of the car was open, and a leg was sticking out - the officer did not see the leg move, and their first instinct was to pull their gun on the car.... The person's leg finally moved, and the officer freaked out.... Mind you, this was a student - sitting next to tennis courts in their car, getting a drink of water, and they were almost shot because their car was old and had some bullet holes in it. Why the officer told me this story I don't know??
So, how do you have a rational conversation with someone who goes into victim/defensive/attack mode?