I'd like to ask all atheists/ agnostics/ or seekers, here:
If you would plan to enter a church and maybe join their community, would you fear any abuse of powers?
I mean there are church elders that might interfere with your life perhaps... and there is a pastor who traditionally plays a large role in churches?
I think if I joined a church, I would be inclined to treat it more as a community for emotional support, a kind of therapy and life counselling. We all need advice from time to time. The willingness to be vulnerable like that in public has it dangers and can open you up to abuse and manipulation if someone treats that kind of emotional openness and honesty as weakness or an opportunity for personal advantage.
Anything relating to subjects like sex, intimacy and death- given how intimate, controversial and emotional they are- is liable to be open to abuse. We all have buttons that can be pressed to make us do things we wouldn’t do otherwise, so it is important to choose your friends carefully.
Or perhaps: would you feel peer pressure?
Yes. But I don’t think peer pressure is necessarily a bad thing. The desire to “fit in” amongst any group of people is part of being human. It can be largely benign and even positive sometimes, especially if people encourage to try new things or make positive life changes.
Its what you are being pressured in to that is more the cause for concern and how the majority of your peers doing something can normalise destructive behaviours or make it invisible by dulling our sense of alarm or awareness as to what is going on.
Just imagine everybody stands up all of a sudden shouting "praise Jesus" or anything like that... would that make you rather uncomfortable maybe?
Yes. Maybe I’m not grown up enough to be that expressive, unguarded and emotionally uninhibited in public or I was brought up the “wrong” way, but it would set me on edge.
Don’t get me wrong- its infectious with the right group of people and sharing the energy and enthusiasm of a crowd probably feels great. Its probably quite a lot of fun too. But ordinarily, it shouts “cult!” and is something of a warning sign depending on what people believe and do with those beliefs.
I’ve always been the quiet, reflective type. Books have more power to persuade me than people (at least in the long run). I prefer the social distance when weighing up ideas, as you can put a book down or on a shelf, but saying “no” to a person, cutting them off mid-sentence or walking away from them feels rude and uncomfortable. In social situations, I want to feel I can walk away if it starts going in a direction I’m no longer comfortable with. Being in a large crowd shouting “praise Jesus” would make me uncomfortable (at least initially) because their is a very explicit expectation you are meant to join in.
Put me in a pleasant social gathering with people quietly talking, a buffet and some drinks, and I’d feel more at home. It maybe the sense that you can walk in and walk out of a gathering unannounced that is more liberating in a strange way, so it is a more restrained atmosphere conducive to being thoughtful about what is going on.
I find one-on-one conversation much more interesting, productive and intimate. A warm and friendly face is always a welcome sight. Shouting “Praise Jesus” is a little “advanced” for me. I’d prefer an entry-level introduction where I meet someone and can talk or ask them things and still feel like we can agree to differ. Social setting is important and the context for discussing these kind of beliefs matters.