I am a woman and if a man asks me out on a date I think that he should pay for it.
My opinion about paying is if I ask anyone to go somewhere I think I should pay their way.
If I agree to an invite might it be ok if I just let him pay every time that I am asked on a date? In your opinion.
Of course, if we want more than one date and I finally ask him out I think I might say, "this will be my treat".
What do you think?
My opinion....and remember that I started going out in the nineteen SIXTIES....so this might be old advice....
the one doing the inviting has generally figured out where you are going, what you will be doing and how much it will cost. It would be beyond rude to expect the 'guest' to pay any part of it when those decisions have already been made. How in the world would the 'Inviter" know whether the "invitee" can AFFORD it?
No. If you (male or female) are inviting someone on a date that you have already planned, you pay.
If you get together and plan things together, part of that planning can be 'who pays.' After all, if you both contribute, you can probably do something fancier than if only one of you does.
"Would you like to come to dinner with me, and perhaps a movie?" You pay.
"I have tickets to 'Wicked,' and it would be nice to have dinner first..." YOU pay.
"I was thinking it would be fun to go to Disneyland for the day...and perhaps stay the night in the Disneyland hotel and go to California Adventure the next day...do you think we could combine resources and do that?' That's an option, and perfectly acceptable, once you know each other better.
The one doing the inviting to a date already planned? The Inviter pays.
Period.
And neither he NOR she had better figure that s/he's buying anything but a dinner and movie companion.
In my 'Old Fogey" opinion, but my kids and grandkids had better follow that advice. I wouldn't give a pin for someone who plans an expensive evening out and then EXPECTS his/her date to contribute.