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I'm not stereotyping ANYONE.
I'm speaking to rh111369. Not Dallas.
Dallas would not put up with this crap.
Christian or not.
Some people's religious views are unhealthy FOR THEM.
Some people become obsessively judgemental
Some people become unbearably guilt ridden
Some people become door mats in the name of forgiveness and love.
Dallas is none of these things,
and in all the time I've known her
I have never once suggested that maybe she should ditch her religious beliefs and views. Just ask her.
Religions are not "one size fits all".
You can get in trouble making blanket statments like this. I have and will never do such a thingYes ...you have never "stereo-typed" me.
Ya know "Christian " men will try and dominate and rule.
Love
Dallas
Yes ...you have never "stereo-typed" me.
No Im not a "doormat"..I have "choices"..Im not shackled in chains of what an old or new testemant says.
I do not "submit" to abuse.If I so CHOOSE to work things out if abuse is something to deal with then I so choose.I am not an "innocent"..myself.
Anyway..I do not feel "guilty" that I didnt harbor a rapist or an otherwise abuser.(I called the police)
I will never submit to "doormat: status.That is not Gods plan for me ...
The sit down shut up thing just isnt going to work and hasnt for me or the main man Im with..Lets put it this way..his fingerprints are on file.He tried all that stuff..he got a stay in jail.
Now he chews gums..reallly hard.LOL!!!
Ya know "Christian " men will try and dominate and rule.It takes a STRONG Christian woman that wont let them.
Im not even going to tell ya'll my honeymoon story.But the poor thing was so ..dumb basically he thought that would work.He married the wrong woman.
Love
Dallas
You can get in trouble making blanket statments like this. I have and will never do such a thing
It was pretty obvious.sure now you tell me
I think he knows that... he was just trying to pick a fight...Please excuse my rudeness.I will clarify..."some Christian men".There are many wonderful selfless men out there including Christian men.
What's wrong with stalkers? As a stalker myself (at least I've been called one several times), I can tell you that stalkers are real human beings with real feelings, and they do NOT want to rape or murder the girl. They just have stronger feelings of love and naturally express it by following the girl around and trying to provide for her in every way possible.Too bad he did it stalker fashion.
They're creepy at best, and frequently dangerous.What's wrong with stalkers?
Maybe you don't, but others do.As a stalker myself (at least I've been called one several times), I can tell you that stalkers are real human beings with real feelings, and they do NOT want to rape or murder the girl.
Stalking isn't love, it's obsession. It never leads to anything good.They just have stronger feelings of love and naturally express it by following the girl around and trying to provide for her in every way possible.
I never said I was harassing them or intruding on their life... I said that when I have a crush on a girl, my first idea is to spend as much time with her as possible and constantly bring her gifts.But that doesnt give them the right to intrude in someone elses life or harrass them.Im sorry but your stronger feelings of love arent someone elses problem or responsibility.Your feelings do not entitle you to infringe on another persons rights.
Once again, I never said that...Believing that your feelings over ride another persons wish not to be contacted by you
You could have said that first . I don't define it as unwanted contact, from my experience, the the girl doesn't show any signs whatsoever that she doesn't like the contact until she decides it's time to rip your heart out and move to the next boy. Usually they tell me it's "stalking" long after the fact.I define stalking as unwanted contact by another person..
Stalking is a way of expressing love, although it usually indictates obsession. The only reason it never leads to anything good is because females are programmed with a stereotype of "stalker" personalities.Stalking isn't love, it's obsession. It never leads to anything good.
Ok, thanks. THAT makes sense. Er, what healthier ways?ETA: That said, the word gets thrown around a lot. Just because you've been called a stalker doesn't mean you are one. I have, too, and I'm not. Still, if it comes up a lot, you might want to find healthier ways of expressing your affection.
I never said I was harassing them or intruding on their life... I said that when I have a crush on a girl, my first idea is to spend as much time with her as possible and constantly bring her gifts.
Once again, I never said that...
You could have said that first . I don't define it as unwanted contact, from my experience, the the girl doesn't show any signs whatsoever that she doesn't like the contact until she decides it's time to rip your heart out and move to the next boy. Usually they tell me it's "stalking" long after the fact.
Oh, ok, it sounded like you were talking about me.You said whats wrong with stalking...what you are describing is not stalking.I referred to this ladies husband as a stalker.His phone calls were unwanted.And even if they were it still seems a bit obsessive to me.He would have had to have dialed her number about every 2 minutes over a 45 minute time span.
I had a stalker, about 8 years ago, I left my job partly because of it.He had a mental illness made worse by drug use and he thought he was Jesus and we were engaged.(it is ok to laugh at this it is kind of funny)
At first I thought I was imagining it and then that it wasn't anything major, I would get silent calls and he would turn up at my work and other places, he would try and give me gifts but I wouldn't take them, I was nervous but I never reported him because he was obviously ill and his being where I was all the time was so vague, I really should have.
The point being, if someone is clearly uncomfortable with your advances stop making them, for both your sakes, it isn't healthy to be so invested in another person and it isn't fun having some love sick weirdo following you around like a bad smell.
Some people are dense and cant pick up the "clearly uncomfortable" part or they are in denial.So its only fair to tell them straight out.You are making me uncomfortable stop calling me stop trying to give me presents and dont come to my work or anywhere else I am for the purpose of seeing me.I dont want to be in a relationship with you its time you move on.
I mean that seems a lot easier to try first before such steps as leaving your job.
Love
Dallas