So what do think about anger when should it be suppressed? when should it be expressed? I have some problems with anger. Lately I have been listening to sermons on anger to help get some knowledge and perspective on the subject. The most helpful thing I learned was that usually anger that isn't good comes from you expecting something to go a certain way and it doesn't work out. On the other hand the small percentage of anger that is useful is usually caused by something bad happening to someone else not to you. Maybe I have been to idealistic about life. Not that good ideals aren't something to strive for but I guess you can't get upset when reality falls short of your ideals. Well that's my take on it, what about you?
There's no hard and fast rule. Sometimes it's justified, sometimes not so, but still understandable, and sometimes it's just ridiculous. You've got to judge each instance on its own.
I have anger issues, too. As I've said elsewhere, I have PTSD, though it's largely under control now. As you may or may not know, that generally manifests in one of two ways: irrational fear or irrational anger. I go the anger route. It used to be, someone would do something completely innocuous, and I'd get furious at them because it triggered a memory. Took me a long time to figure that out.
I also never learned to express anger in a healthy way. Most of the time, I just get nasty verbally, but on the rare occasion that I lose my temper, I get really violent. I just have to hit SOMETHING. I've never gone so far as to hit a person, but I want to, so I'll punch walls and break things. I'm not proud of it, but there it is.