Continued because I'm too lazy to self-edit much.
“If you can't explain it to a six year old, you don't understand it yourself.” ― Albert Einstein
Christian to English translation
Christian "Well, I guess it is just too deep for you to understand, if you were just a little more mature or had a little more faith...."
English translation:
"I have no good argument or explanation for why I believe what I do, but would like you to know that I feel my own understanding is still better than yours, and I am too prideful to actually have an honest conversation with you"
While it is good to try to be able to simplify something for the mind of a child, if for no other reason than
to show you have mastered an understanding of the subject, which is what Einstein meant here, make no mistake, a child will
not understand what Einstein understands. What the child hears in that distilled version, is at best highlights and generalities, not a full mature understanding. There is as a matter of fact a difference between the understanding of children, and the understanding of adults.
For the child to assume they understand the mature version of it, because they read it in a book, is what is prideful. I hope you're not trying to say what I have been saying is being, "too prideful to actually have an honest conversation with you"? If so, you've missed what I've been saying. If you assume I am a Christian apologist, you'd be in error.
Yes, I cam familiar with the stages of faith, as well as
other stages of intellectual and ethic development. The highest stages in all of those type models tend to be honest agnosticism, recognition that there is no "true" religious belief, that all faiths have good and bad within them, that it is impossible to personally know anything for sure, but it is possible to comfortably live with ambiguity.
I am familiar with many of these developmental models, and I'd challenge a couple of the things you think they are saying here. Rather maybe I'd qualify them better than to just say, 'the highest stages is agnosticism', for example. In fact I'd definitely say that's not true, as we understand the term agnosticism.
I would rather say that we are beyond questions of is there a God or no God, or "I don't know". There becomes a clarity to be sure, but it is not something that you can put into clearly defined boxes of subject/object dualities like that. It's beyond words and definitions. Things become less clearly defined, and more holistic and interconnected in nature. The question of theism vs. atheism becomes
moot. It's not the question anymore. And that is not what agnosticism is. Agnosticism sits in the middle of that question, not transcends the question.
But yes, an integral perspective recognizes that "everyone has a piece of the truth," to quote from the Integral philosopher Ken Wilber here. I think what you are saying, and what I fully agree with here, is best captured by the 13th century Zen monk and poet Ikkyu, "
Many paths lead from the foot of the mountain, but at the peak we all gaze at the single bright moon." All our languages and symbols about the transcendent, are simply ways for our minds and spirits to connect to something beyond the words themselves. And that, I think, is what you are trying to say about 'agnosticism"? I just wouldn't call it that, as it's greater than that.
By the end, there are no authority figures, all truths are seen as relative, something most religious faiths cannot tolerate as they lose control without seeing themselves or their books and their interpretations as correct and having authority.
Again I agree with this, provisionally. I think what you are describing is what is found at the postmodernist level, or to use the colors of the stages from Spiral Dynamics, the Green vMeme stage. That where an understanding of the relative nature of truths come online, and authority figure and group identifications give way to the individual. All this has truth to it. But it's not the end stage to be sure. What comes after it, "transcends and includes" this understanding, but goes beyond it, according to the developmentalist.
If we were to take this postmodernist perspective, and apply that to Fowler's stages of faith, I'd still put that in Stage 4 faith, the Individuative Reflective stage. Deconstruction is a hallmark of postmodernism, and Stage 4 faith definitely deconstructs the symbols of faith. It's the first stage where one is able to 'decouple' the meaning of the symbol from the symbol itself, which is something the mythic-literal stage and the conventional stage (2 and 3), is unable to do yet. To deny the narrative is literally true, destroys the meaning of the story for them, and hence all their apologetics to defend against that happening. 'Noah's Ark really happened, because if it didn't there is no God!', for instance, something both the mythic-literal believer and neo-atheist tend to think alike on.
But there are stages beyond that, where someone already understands the nature of relativism, and has no problem with that anymore. It's just accepted as the way of things. Mystics through the ages have always differentiated between the Absolute and the Relative. So that's not something terribly new, aside from the level of details it goes into about that. The highest stages understand that Absolute Truth, is not a propositional truth. It can't be defined and dissected. It is "ineffable truth", beyond languaging,
beyond comprehension, but not beyond apprehension. You don't have to reason a fire, to know a fire is hot.
I, and many others, the fastest growing group of religious people, are "spiritual but not affiliated", ie, no dogma, no specific book, no specific group - we learn from all, accept what is beautiful from all, and are free to reject what is evil from all.
I think you and I are probably far more alike than dissimilar. While you hear me draw from the Christian language, you have to take the 'style' in which I am speaking of it. If you are familiar with Fowler's stages, then you could try to hear it as coming from a post-deconstructionist perspective, testing the waters of Stage 5 faith, or the Conjunctive stage. I think that a lot of baby gets tossed out with the bathwater in Stage 4, at least looking at my own experience, and observing that in others as well. Stage 5 is able to see Truth emerge from the relative truths of the system of symbols and language, which are largely culturally informed.
This is a good discussion. It's not often I meet someone familiar with these areas of understanding. The relative nature of truth is that everything is perceptions of truth. But the there is more beyond the relative, as we learn to let go of tying truth and meaning to fixed objects and allow Truth to be found in everything, from the lilies of field, to the joy of a child's smile expressing the whole Universe.