Your first paragraph doesn't address the fundamental issue. It seems you are just introducing a new word (disobedience) to dodge the good v evil question. Is disobedience to god's commands good or was it evil? Was it neither? Adam and his sidekick didn't know....they had no knowledge of either of those concepts until they ate the fruit.. If it is not evil to disobey god, then Christians are wasting a lot of time praying, reading the bible, and having church pot lucks. They should be able to go about their business without consequence. so disobedience falls into the "evil" category, right? Otherwise, why the punishment???
But there was no such thing in then garden as death, right? Wasn't death something that was instituted as a punishment for the future crime of eating? How did they even know what death was? What example did they have?
Anyway, it doesn't matter whether god was telling the truth about death, or that the serpent was lying. The point is simply that they were punished (and all of mankind-which is another issue) for doing something that they could not know was either good nor evil, because until they ate of the fruit, they didn't know the difference.
As to the serpent mentioning the name of the tree and Eve not, I have no idea of what consequence that is. Adam was told it was the tree of the knowledge of good and evil by god.
Genesis 2:16-17 And the LORD God commanded the man, saying, 'Of every tree of the garden you may freely eat; but of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat, for in the day that you eat of it you shall surely die."
It's great to have this give and take. I grow so tired of the defensiveness and belligerence that flares up on this forums all the time. You grasp that I am not particularly interested in converting you to something or other, and don't question the sincerity of your beliefs. I am only pointing out that from an "outsider's" perspective, The Bible is fraught with issues.
The matter of slavery and genocide are also some ugly parts, but let's don't throw that into the mix, or we will still be having this conversation 20 years from now.