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Cutting and Self-Injury | World of Psychology

I agree with Father Heathen; a psychologist, if you can afford one. She needs professional help: that is a certainty. Cutting can be a way of coping with life; she might be feeling suicidal, but I have hope that she doesn't actually want to die.

It has been a couple of years, and you mentioned she has a mental disability. It is time she gets the help she needs. Good luck, rakhel.

 

[LuisDantas]

But I suppose my question is this... If cutting is not suicide, and she is doing this, claiming suicide. then wtf am I dealing with?

This may be a sympton of borderline disorder, but it is thought to say for sure. Seek a specialist.

 

[DallasApple]

I agree..If someone is cutting themselves in order to "relieve" or "express " emotions she needs to talk to someone....

And by the way "stop blaming" your self..

Its not "yoru fault"

(((HUGS)))

Love

Dallas

 

[NewScotlandBlues]

I never hurt myself or attempted suicide, but believe me I've thought about it, in fact I still do. At the end of 6th grade my very best and only friend moved halfway across the country and it left me extremely vulnerable, mentally and emotionally. I was bullied and teased on a weekly basis (I still am :/) by not only people in my class but various within my entire grade, some who I've never met in my life!
And it did a horrible number on my self-esteem and self- confidence, so much I believe I've developed an anxiety disorder. I don't make friends easily because I have a very hard time talking to people I don't now well and I get very, very nervous in groups of people I don't know (which is why I'm unable to go to dances, concerts, parties, etc.). Sometimes I feel like theres no point in getting up or going to school. I used to be a straight A student but after the bullying got really bad my grades have dropped a lot. I am always very anxious about what other people think of me. I always worry if I'm good enough and I need constant reassurance that I'm doing something right. And I can not stand when I think people are or could get mad at me. It makes me sweat a lot and worry frantically (which is why I feel the need to apologize intensely when I think someone is mad at me).

I feel like I can't talk to my mom about it. Shes a nurse and I feel like if I tell her I think I have a disorder she won't believe me. And I've talked to a counselor at school a few times, but it didn't really help. I feel like I can't tell anyone in real life because I'm worried what they might think about me, so I turn the Internet. For some reason I don't mind telling people on the internet how I feel.

I would never try (or hope I'd never try) to kill myself or hurt myself, but I always wonder what would happen if I disappeared. Would people be sad, or happy that they wouldn't have to deal with me anymore. Or if I got seriously injured, who would care? Who would come and visit me?

I'm sorry about the long post (look, there I go again), I'm not trying to look for attention I just like to vent, because like I said, the Internet is the only place I feel like I can do so. So if you read all this, I'd like to thank you, for taking the time to hear what I have to say

 

[Storm]

:hug:

Do you know about the private forums? There's one called Survivors Circle that might be good for you.

 

[Onkara]

You aren't alone, NewScotlandBlues, and you are important even to those who don't know you personally because you can make a difference to our lives.

Sometimes it seems overwhelming and the energy to stay positive has to be pulled from deep within. I wish you well and hope you can continue to share your feelings with us.



Best wishes!

 

[NewScotlandBlues]

You aren't alone, NewScotlandBlues, and you are important even to those who don't know you personally because you can make a difference to our lives.

Sometimes it seems overwhelming and the energy to stay positive has to be pulled from deep within. I wish you well and hope you can continue to share your feelings with us.



Best wishes!

Thank you so much for your kind response I am currently in the process of finding a therapist in my city. I really rather have someone to talk to than take meds. I've talked to my best friends mom about it, and she said that she would speak with my mother about it. I'm glad that I'm finally getting help

 

[Onkara]

Hi NSB
I am glad you are making progress. I agree that talking can be more powerful than medicine, and I expect you will find you are much richer and emotionally intelligent person than many people might think you are. It will become your strength later

 

[LilyPhoenix]

I currently self injure i am trying to stop but am finding it really hard to stop
i have self injured since the age of 13 am now 35 and i still cant stop
i have tried threapy etc but the longest i have gone with out is 7 months and that was a few years ago
At the moment the longest i can do without is about two weeks
There are times where i feel suicidal but i remember i have my family and husband who i love
I lost my dad to suicide and its something that devastated the whole family i wouldnt want to make them go through that again

am glad there is this post here and people are understanding of self injury here

 

[niceguy]

I do not know if this is the right sub forum/tread but I feel the need to write something. I a currently stuck on a train, stopped by what appears to be someone that got ran over by said train. Judging by the surroundings I find it unlikely to be an accident thou at this point suicide are unconfirmed. I was on my way to celebrate Christmas with my family. Some have no one to be with. Was this a lonely soul seeing no point continuing anymore? I do not know and maybe I never will. And even if it was just an accident it is still a tradgedy, the ambulance arrived silently, showing no rush. Maybe there was no point.

 

[VoidCat]

I cut a few days ago and would like some help. I've decided not to tell the group home I had cut...Ima just get rid of the razor I use to shave my underarms with since that's what I used, stay away from pencil sharpeners that have blades I could remove, and wall tacks...just for a little while.My underarms are probably going to get hairy as hell and I am sure my grandma would complain but I dont care. I am thinking instead of cutting it'll be a good idea to drink soda since that's painful for me to drink as it burns my tongue and throat. There's no lasting injury there and no actual harm done. But before I go that route I'll be searching for alternatives...I am currently writing down triggers and trying to come up with a plan for them. Anybody got ideas on what to do instead of cutting?

 

[InChrist]

I cut a few days ago and would like some help. I've decided not to tell the group home I had cut...Ima just get rid of the razor I use to shave my underarms with since that's what I used, stay away from pencil sharpeners that have blades I could remove, and wall tacks...just for a little while.My underarms are probably going to get hairy as hell and I am sure my grandma would complain but I dont care. I am thinking instead of cutting it'll be a good idea to drink soda since that's painful for me to drink as it burns my tongue and throat. There's no lasting injury there and no actual harm done. But before I go that route I'll be searching for alternatives...I am currently writing down triggers and trying to come up with a plan for them. Anybody got ideas on what to do instead of cutting?

I noticed on another thread you said you are going to get therapy and talk to someone at the group home. So that should be helpful. I think it’s important and necessary to talk about your feelings and what brings on the desire to hurt yourself.

I was saved by Jesus Christ years ago. I am wondering, do you believe in God at all? Have you ever read in the Bible about how the devil desires to kill and destroy people. He does this in many ways, one being by inspiring self- destructive thoughts in a person’s mind. That is the reason the Bible teaches the importance of paying attention to our thoughts and taking them captive to Christ who loves, saves, and gives freedom.
Self-harm starts with the thought.
But maybe you don’t believe in Jesus or the Bible. I don’t know.

 

[VoidCat]

I am wondering, do you believe in God at all?

I believe in multiple gods but not the one you speak of.

 

[InChrist]

I believe in multiple gods but not the one you speak of.

Okay, I hope you will stay safe.

 

[VoidCat]

I have not cut in a few month

 

[VoidCat]

Im tempted to selfharm. I'm not going to but I'm tempted to.

 

[JIMMY12345]

I have been debating with myself all weekend while I was away at my mums house as to whether I should start a thread on this subject and have decided go for it.

I'm really not sure how to start this thread so I thought it might be best if I started by telling my own story and went from there.

(Note: This is not an attempt to get any sympathy for what I have been through and done. This thread is aimed at helping people who feel they may have nobody they can talk to).

I have always been a happy, bubbly and outgoing person, but when I turned 18 I found Out that I could get myself into debt very easily and I did.
At the time of getting credit with my bank and various stores I thought I could handle it (young people know best after all).
Then I applied to college and still thought I could handle that aswell as a full time job to pay off my bills and going out with my friends.
I ended up moving with my mum and quickly found that everything was falling apart.
I could no longer see my friends as I lived too far away, I couldn't go to college and juggle a job at the same time and all of this quickly ammounted to me not being able to pay my bills.
So I was 18 with no social life, no career prospects and a job that wasn't ever going to go anywhere.
I started to drink large amounts of vodka on my own and then I found self harm.
At first I thought it was ok, I thought that it was helping and I thought that nobody would notice.
As I recall I think it was my sister who noticed and told my mum, at the time I was miffed with her but now I am glad.
All it took in the end was for me to talk to her and explain what was going on in my life and how I thought everything sucked.
She helped me talk to my creditors and find a new job and for a while everything was fine. Then I moved out into a place of my own and found that although my life was going ok at the time, I started visiting that dark place again. It was an addiction.
I told my mum and a close friend of mine and they kept an eye on me.
Then my mum found out that there are alternative methods of dealing with the addiction. I found that holding onto cold ice was a method that would not harm me and was not appealing but it worked.
6 years on and I still carry the scars of what I did with me but I do not cover them up, If anyone has the time to ask me about them instead of judging me then I have the time to tell them exactly what happened and why. Yes I sometimes feel silly about what I did but I never feel ashamed.

I thought a thread like this might help people, I'm really not sure anybody on here needs helping but if there are then they should know that there are people here that care and will listen and try to help.

If for whatever reason you need help then please don't hesitate to ask, If it is personal then feel free to send me or anybody else who wants to help a private message.

Previous generations could afford to feed a family buy a house and a car on a low income.This is often no longer possible and young people are under severe pressure.Suicide is the most common reason for death among young people and males are three tiomes more likely to be at risk than females..Well done for posting as anyone even those who look happy can be at risk.Always chat to friends and be aware.Having a bicycle and walking or going to the gym can help people cope.Physical exercise is very important as is cutting down on processed foods.