darkpenguin
Charismatic Enigma
I have been debating with myself all weekend while I was away at my mums house as to whether I should start a thread on this subject and have decided go for it.
I'm really not sure how to start this thread so I thought it might be best if I started by telling my own story and went from there.
(Note: This is not an attempt to get any sympathy for what I have been through and done. This thread is aimed at helping people who feel they may have nobody they can talk to).
I have always been a happy, bubbly and outgoing person, but when I turned 18 I found Out that I could get myself into debt very easily and I did.
At the time of getting credit with my bank and various stores I thought I could handle it (young people know best after all).
Then I applied to college and still thought I could handle that aswell as a full time job to pay off my bills and going out with my friends.
I ended up moving with my mum and quickly found that everything was falling apart.
I could no longer see my friends as I lived too far away, I couldn't go to college and juggle a job at the same time and all of this quickly ammounted to me not being able to pay my bills.
So I was 18 with no social life, no career prospects and a job that wasn't ever going to go anywhere.
I started to drink large amounts of vodka on my own and then I found self harm.
At first I thought it was ok, I thought that it was helping and I thought that nobody would notice.
As I recall I think it was my sister who noticed and told my mum, at the time I was miffed with her but now I am glad.
All it took in the end was for me to talk to her and explain what was going on in my life and how I thought everything sucked.
She helped me talk to my creditors and find a new job and for a while everything was fine. Then I moved out into a place of my own and found that although my life was going ok at the time, I started visiting that dark place again. It was an addiction.
I told my mum and a close friend of mine and they kept an eye on me.
Then my mum found out that there are alternative methods of dealing with the addiction. I found that holding onto cold ice was a method that would not harm me and was not appealing but it worked.
6 years on and I still carry the scars of what I did with me but I do not cover them up, If anyone has the time to ask me about them instead of judging me then I have the time to tell them exactly what happened and why. Yes I sometimes feel silly about what I did but I never feel ashamed.
I thought a thread like this might help people, I'm really not sure anybody on here needs helping but if there are then they should know that there are people here that care and will listen and try to help.
If for whatever reason you need help then please don't hesitate to ask, If it is personal then feel free to send me or anybody else who wants to help a private message.
I'm really not sure how to start this thread so I thought it might be best if I started by telling my own story and went from there.
(Note: This is not an attempt to get any sympathy for what I have been through and done. This thread is aimed at helping people who feel they may have nobody they can talk to).
I have always been a happy, bubbly and outgoing person, but when I turned 18 I found Out that I could get myself into debt very easily and I did.
At the time of getting credit with my bank and various stores I thought I could handle it (young people know best after all).
Then I applied to college and still thought I could handle that aswell as a full time job to pay off my bills and going out with my friends.
I ended up moving with my mum and quickly found that everything was falling apart.
I could no longer see my friends as I lived too far away, I couldn't go to college and juggle a job at the same time and all of this quickly ammounted to me not being able to pay my bills.
So I was 18 with no social life, no career prospects and a job that wasn't ever going to go anywhere.
I started to drink large amounts of vodka on my own and then I found self harm.
At first I thought it was ok, I thought that it was helping and I thought that nobody would notice.
As I recall I think it was my sister who noticed and told my mum, at the time I was miffed with her but now I am glad.
All it took in the end was for me to talk to her and explain what was going on in my life and how I thought everything sucked.
She helped me talk to my creditors and find a new job and for a while everything was fine. Then I moved out into a place of my own and found that although my life was going ok at the time, I started visiting that dark place again. It was an addiction.
I told my mum and a close friend of mine and they kept an eye on me.
Then my mum found out that there are alternative methods of dealing with the addiction. I found that holding onto cold ice was a method that would not harm me and was not appealing but it worked.
6 years on and I still carry the scars of what I did with me but I do not cover them up, If anyone has the time to ask me about them instead of judging me then I have the time to tell them exactly what happened and why. Yes I sometimes feel silly about what I did but I never feel ashamed.
I thought a thread like this might help people, I'm really not sure anybody on here needs helping but if there are then they should know that there are people here that care and will listen and try to help.
If for whatever reason you need help then please don't hesitate to ask, If it is personal then feel free to send me or anybody else who wants to help a private message.