This is partially covered in another article about the same woman:
"The boys [are] consuming media with the 'people are too sensitive' and 'you can't say anything anymore!' themes," Schroeder tweeted. "For these boys, this will ring true — they're getting in trouble for 'nothing.' This narrative allows boys to shed the shame — replacing it w/anger."
To prevent kids from shutting you out, get curious she says. Meet them where they are. "Instead we inquired more: Where did you hear this? Where did you see this? Can you show me that?" she said. "When they showed us, the first thing we tried to do was say, 'I get why this seems funny on the surface. And I totally get why it's confusing.' "
Schroeder started talking to her sons, now 11 and 14, about the hate they were encountering online this past year. Laying that groundwork early, when they're younger and more open, she said, may help them think more critically about the media they consume later.
"I hope that we were able to build with our kids a foundation where they believe that when we say something is not great, maybe they disobey but deep inside there's a little voice that's going to say to them: you know, I should question why this seems so funny and yet I feel like I have to keep it a secret."
Schroeder isn't worried about white male youth themselves, she said, calling this generation "the most open-hearted potentially kindest critical thinking loving group of boys that I've ever seen," she said.
She's worried about how propaganda is being spread online — by weaponizing that benevolence.
How One Mom Talks To Her Sons About Hate On The Internet
Interesting, although it seems to portray the situation as if they're visiting these alt-right sites in a vacuum, like they're not being exposed much to other sites or ideas. Either that, or they're just gravitating towards the alt-right sites for some reason. I don't think this really tells the full story.
The article you linked brought me to another article: Opinion | Racists Are Recruiting. Watch Your White Sons.
One thing that is noticeable is the use of fear tactics and trying to stoke the fears of young white men, who may feel alienated and disaffected in today's society.
In each of these cases, the killers were white men with a history of extremism. The San Diego gunman, for instance, left a manifesto on 8chan also claiming responsibility for a mosque fire. And the San Diego and New Zealand gunmen posted hate-filled online manifestoes that included internet-culture references, such as references to memes and a notorious shout-out to a noteworthy YouTube personality. Both of them mentioned or alluded to the “white genocide” — which the Anti-Defamation League defines as the white-supremacist belief that the white race is “dying” because of growing nonwhite populations and “forced assimilation.”
There's also an apparent need to be part of a "heroic struggle":
According to Jackson Katz, author of “The Macho Paradox: Why Some Men Hurt Women and How All Men Can Help,” it’s not necessarily the ideology behind white nationalism, anti-feminism or the alt-right that initially appeals to young white men and boys as much as it is the sense of being part of a “heroic struggle.”
Participating in the alt-right community online “offers the seductive feeling of being part of a brotherhood, which in turn validates their manhood,” Dr. Katz says. YouTubers and participants in chat forums like 4chan, the defunct 8chan and Discord “regularly denigrate liberal or progressive white men as soft, emasculated ‘soy boys’ and insufficiently aggressive or right-wing white men as ‘cucks.’”
As to this last part, I would suggest that society sends mixed messages, particularly in the entertainment media. We idolize and worship the "action hero," while relegating the weaker males to subordinate, support roles. Progressivism might sometimes make the "action hero" a woman, but either way, the plot invariably involves excessive violence as an acceptable means towards conflict resolution. Even the "heroes" are forced to use violence because "there is no other way."
Also, due to our political and economic philosophy, which is worshiped all across the spectrum (except perhaps the far left), the result is a social Darwinist, dog-eat-dog, predatory society in which the worst aspects of human nature are encouraged and applauded.
There is also a sense of victimization which is being focused upon:
Inevitably, kids who have encountered these messages will mimic extremist talking points, and those of us who find these views repulsive may be tempted to yell at them, ground them or take away their devices in a futile attempt to keep them away from this propaganda.
The problem is, punitive responses often create a sense of shame that can feed a growing sense of anger — an anger the alt-right is eager to exploit.
What really hooks many white teenagers is the alt-right’s insistence that white men are under attack in America, the true victims of oppression. If your child has already been punished for his opinions, this message is especially resonant. They find a home for their rage, a brotherhood of guys like them, and that oh-so-alluring heroic struggle — and that’s how an extremist is born.
I've noticed this "punitive" approach as being one of the more common in society. The tactics of ridicule and punishment for having incorrect views seem rather widespread. Whether they get fired from their jobs, kicked out of school, banned from YouTube, or grounded by their parents - the message is clear that anyone who holds a certain viewpoint will be shamed or punished in some way. That, just by itself, reinforces the "victimization" angle.
There's a link to another article about the false victimization and its effects: https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/aaronfreedman/false-victimhood-kills
However, it does suggest a possible solution:
But ultimately, the only way to beat false victimhood will be a politics that gets beyond the us–them dichotomies of identity. The renewal in the West of a vision for social and economic rights for all, built around class struggle, is encouraging. The best way to beat counterrevolution, after all, is with the real thing.
Identity politics appears to be the ultimate underlying problem here. One thing that I've noticed as a common tactic of the alt-right involves very little work on their part. Much of what they do is simply post videos and quotes from identitarians who seem to relish in the bashing and denigrating of "whites," "males," or "white males" just for its own sake. They (the alt-right) don't have to actually write propaganda on their own, since the other side is giving it to them on a silver platter.