Marriage Doesn't Really Begin Until You Have Children

[Dena]

What do you think? A friend of mine said this today.

 

[Nanda]

I think that's very unfair to people who can't have/don't want children. I also think it would largely depend on your definition of marriage.

 

[monta]

What do you think? A friend of mine said this today.

Wouldn't you love to be in a relationship with them, just hanging in there waiting to spawn, have they been watching a lot of 'The Tudors' by any chance ?

 

[Guitar's Cry]

I think that that may be a dangerous ideal in a time when overpopulation is the biggest problem humans are facing.

Like Nanda, I agree it is unfair for those who don't want kids. Unless we adopt, Meg and I aren't going to have kids.

 

[blackout]

People have kids with too little thought.

I am not a fan of marriage either.
But that is just me.

Keep each relationship dynamic and healthy in and of itself.
(having nothing to do with anyone else)
Adult love... to parent/child.

One thing for sure,
children before career... and that you cannot afford to raise on your income...
can only cause undue.. and even fataly destructive... strain on your adult relationship/s.

 

[Gentoo]

I think that that may be a dangerous ideal in a time when overpopulation is the biggest problem humans are facing.

Like Nanda, I agree it is unfair for those who don't want kids. Unless we adopt, Meg and I aren't going to have kids.

Nope, so looks like we'll never be married and forced to continue living in sin.:yes:

 

[Kilgore Trout]

What do you think? A friend of mine said this today.

I think your friend is confusing parenthood with marriage.

 

[Mr Cheese]

marriage is a sign of commitment...its also a good tax benefit

It may or may not involve kids...

but generally it does involve sex

 

[DallasApple]

I dont think marriage "begins" when you have children at all.I will say raising kids together obviously poses challenges in the relationship that are unique.You will also aways have that "human' link between you even if you end up divorced.

But then again I dont know..I was never married with no kids.

Love

Dallas

 

[MissAlice]

I don't know....

I've seen many couples married without children.

 

[DallasApple]

I think your friend is confusing parenthood with marriage.

The only thing is if you are married with kids the parenting (or having children) directly impacts the marriage relationship in a pretty significant way.The rearing becomes intertwined with the marriage.

Love

Dallas

 

[MSizer]

I think your friend doesn't know what marriage is. My wife and I are fully commited, neither of us wishes to have to live without the other, and neither of us can even bear the thought of having children. Your friend may say what s/he thinks, but she doesn't speak for other people.

 

[DallasApple]

I think your friend doesn't know what marriage is. My wife and I are fully commited, neither of us wishes to have to live without the other, and neither of us can even bear the thought of having children. Your friend may say what s/he thinks, but she doesn't speak for other people.

And besides that kids grow up and hopefully become independent and they arent a daily part of your life anymore(maybe in thought) but then its "just" the two of you.If its not a marriage untill kids then what is after kids are out of the picture?

It can be a wonderful enrichment to the marriage as far as sharing together and over coming dififculties together and triumphing as well as it can be a source of strife and pain and hardship on the marriage and a source of division.

We have a grandbaby now..And my husband and I work like a well oil machined when we keep him.WE delight in that baby..(and we are still raising our own).

But the problems involved are a huge source of mine and his disagreements now.As well as with our 20 year old still living at home.

We never get a chance it seems to not be worried about one of them and have much stress over them.

Love

Dallas

 

[DallasApple]

Also you can tell your friend if you want to be witty..You can answer her "maybe "..But sometimes divorce doesnt ever really begin untill after you have children.LOL!

Love

Dallas

 

[Dena]

Well, I chose not to comment on what she said. I don't think it was appropriate in the given situation. I just wondered if others thought it was as odd as I did. She herself is pregnant with her 5th. I don't have any children but I feel pretty darn married. My first thought was what about those who can't have children? It felt like a bit of a dig even to me but I may be overly sensitive. I've been noticing some borderline rude comments directed at married women who don't have children.

 

[Humanistheart]

What do you think? A friend of mine said this today.

I think your friend is ignorant, and that's being kind.

 

[blackout]

Having children really doesn't begin until you have children.


Marriage really doesn't begin until you consider yourself married.


Having children while married really doesn't begin till you have children while you are married.

 

[JMorris]

Having children really doesn't begin until you have children.


Marriage really doesn't begin until you consider yourself married.


Having children while married really doesn't begin till you have children while you are married.

its almost obvious isnt it?:drool:

 

[blackout]

its almost obvious isnt it?:drool:

Almost!

LOL!

 

[Guitar's Cry]

Nope, so looks like we'll never be married and forced to continue living in sin.:yes:

It's all good.

Besides, if we add another boy to our relationship, it'll make things that much more equal.