Do you not view friendship as a kind of attachment?
I suppose it is for many people, perhaps even most, but I don't think feelings of friendliness necessarily have anything to do with attachment.
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Do you not view friendship as a kind of attachment?
I suppose it is for many people, perhaps even most, but I don't think feelings of friendliness necessarily have anything to do with attachment.
I suppose it is for many people, perhaps even most, but I don't think feelings of friendliness necessarily have anything to do with attachment.
I feel the complete opposite, it has everything to do with attachment. I mean what is friendship or love but an emotional attachment to a person?
I feel the complete opposite, it has everything to do with attachment. I mean what is friendship or love but an emotional attachment to a person?
I think that really weakens the value of meditating on attachments. There are attachments that will not seem "overly clingy" that are still attachments because they habitually objectify others (even spouses and children) and create needs that actually interfere in those relationships."Attachment" is usually a suitable word to use for the idea that's being expressed in the OP, but remember that "Attachment" is a translation of a more technical term used in Buddhism. The Buddhist word that can be translated as "Attachment" can also be translated as "Clinging-ness". If you think of "Attachment" as "overly clinging to something", then it can be easier to see the difference between a mere "emotional attachment" and an "Attachment" to someone.
doppelgänger;1402482 said:I think that really weakens the value of meditating on attachments. There are attachments that will not seem "overly clingy" that are still attachments because they habitually objectify others (even spouses and children) and create needs that actually interfere in those relationships.
Perhaps moving with the fluidity of the ever changing universe, both in a willingness to embrace uncertainty in one's own apparent "identity" and in the states of being we tend to habitually attach to others, will yield a greater mastery of fear, expand compassion and improve understanding.
Oh, yeah. Sorry. Nevermind then.What you say might be close enough to the truth, but could it be you're getting way ahead of the conversation here, Dopp? I'm pretty much taking things one step at a time this morning -- not just so Panda can more easily understand, but also because I am naturally gifted at tripping over myself.
It's good to see you on any morning my friend.By the way, it's good to see you this morning!
doppelgänger;1402488 said:Oh, yeah. Sorry. Nevermind then.
Thanks. But your point is a valid one.To be clear, what you said makes complete sense to me, and I got something valuable out of reading it. :yes:
Society pushes so much for people to be independent I think it is good to be attached to people attached to the people themselves, NOT attached to what those people can do for you, not attached to thing, but attached to people is good. I mean you would be an uncaring cold loveless person if you refused to become attached to anyone. Can you really love without becoming attached? To keep yourself aloof and unattached from someone is not to love them What keeps us from becoming attached to people? Pride I dont need you, or selfishness - refusal to give ourselves or our heart, or anything to another. Sure, anyone can live unattached, people pride themselves on being independent, but I think it is more honorable to be interdependent than independent. I mean there is no Meaning or Purpose in life if you refuse to become attached. What are you going to live for/with only yourself?
Hmm. I'll try to not take that as an insult to my intelligence.Discussing whether attachments benefit or disadvantage others is, in a way, a bit like discussing whether gravity benefits or disadvantages people.
Of course. In fact, a desire to act out of compassion could be the initial motivator.I also wonder whether or not you are assuming here that attachment is the only possible motive a person would have for acting? Is that the case? Could a person, free of attachment, act out of compassion, for instance?
Yes. This is what I was getting at in an earlier post where I think you missed my point.First, I think striving to have no attachments might be counter-productive. Would not striving to have no attachments itself be an attachment -- at least, in practice?
See three paragraphs above.Second, I am unsure how you could in practice pick and choose which attachments to carry. Are you, in effect, saying you can pick and choose which illusions you will pretend to believe even though you have clearly seen they are illusions? That's the only sense I can make of your question, and yet, I don't think that's what you meant.
I didn't say "all attachments" cause suffering. I'm merely saying that perhaps some attachments are good for mankind and I think most of us are happy to carry them....at least for awhile.Last, if all attachments are causing you suffering -- if that is what you see -- then why would you only be concerned to ameliorate some of the suffering caused by attachments and not all of the unnecessary suffering?
Hmm. I'll try to not take that as an insult to my intelligence.
Oh good grief.I don't think you and I communicate well enough to discuss this subject any further with each other. We simply don't understand each other. So, let's leave it at that.
What do managers do? They manage something, either to reduce risk, or mitigate exposure. Attachments cannot be managed in that sense without strengthening them, though managing attachments might not result in "new" attachments to manage.doppelgänger;1398718 said:Sometimes when I click on the "Who's Online" feature, I see someone listed as "managing attachments." Isn't that what all of us are doing all of the time - managing attachments?
Can spiritual practices end the process of managing attachments, or do they just make for new attachments to manage?
Because it's inevitable. Your grip isn't powerful enough to hold on. Your family and friends will die, or drift away. Your youth passes, if you're lucky, and then the whole span of your life. Your descendants will die out; your planet will die; you will be forgotten with all your achievements.I have attachments, I would never want to let go of them.
Why would anyone ever want to?
I think you enjoy life more when you realize how transitory it is. When you think of how short your time with your loved ones is, it makes it all the more precious.To me they seem entirely counter-productive to my goal in life, which is to just enjoy it.