Yes. And that people who look young are immature.
Then that makes me immature too. I look very young for my age. :angel2:
I find it odd that I said I'd mentor young fellas who are stumbling and bumbling with their attempts at picking me up, and you took issue with that and how I can't be attracted to teenaged-looking people...yet you said this in your response:
I just remember being 18 and d*** 18 year olds can be stupid. 16 year olds even stupider. Although as evidenced by My ex, even 27 year olds can be complete douchetards.
And you think
I'm harsh?
Thank you for stating the obvious. Now may we address the problem? This is not about your attraction. You are entirely entitled to it. But you just told me that 21-year-olds obviously don't know what they are doing. Do you not see the discrepancy, or do I need to illustrate it for you? I respect your level of intelligence and don't feel like I should have to.
Compared to most 40 and 50 year olds, they don't. It's not an insult. I was 21 once. I knew a lot, but not nearly as much as I know now. Aging offers the opportunity to learn from triumphs and setbacks.
I'm not naive enough to think that at my age I have the wisdom of a 60-year-old. Especially when it comes to matters of facing my own mortality, chronic illnesses and joint pains, and being a grandparent. I just don't have the same life experience they do. And being so young doesn't offer as much experience and wisdom in sexuality and dating as someone who has had years and years and years of experience under his or her belt.
In time, with experience, one begins to see the games people play, insecurities and how they're masked, and potential problems in people who you wish to approach and/or in people who are approaching you. At the age of the older teen and young adult, those patterns are much more difficult to pick up, and they're more difficult to work with simply because one typically doesn't have the practice to deal with people who aren't aware of their daddy or mommy issues, who haven't gotten over an ex-partner, who don't yet know what they want to do in their lives, who are insecure in their ability to connect with people, and who have dreams and goals (as Sunstone mentioned) that includes growing up and getting married and having a family.
I've been there and done that, and now I'm moving on to goals like what kind of memories to I want to leave behind, how to establish a nest egg, enjoying time with my aging parents who I know will not be here forever, etc. The goals and dreams are very different in flavor, and how does an 18 year old empathize with a person who is dealing with issues pertaining to having adult children with their own kids? How does a 16 year old connect with somebody wondering how to help their kids with college?
So, you prefer older men. So do I. I like laugh lines and wrinkles and creases and conversations about what they've experienced in their lives and what they've accomplished. I just can't be attracted to somebody so young that they're just starting out in life. When I'm with an older teen or young adult, I prefer to be a source of support and mentorship, and feel I give more value in that capacity with such a large age difference.
Look, I think Sophia Loren is one hot mama. But if she ever said she can't be attracted to anybody younger than 70, it's not a personal attack or a stereotype. So I'm out of her dating pool. I can move on.