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It has never occurred to me that people get married for the benefits. I would think that two people in love would get married in spite of the benefits. I would think two people in love would pay a penalty to get married because their love is all that is really important.
Do the ring and the paper really matter?
They do when one of a couple dies.
Spend your life with someone and then have no rights because no legal relationship exists.
They do when one of a couple dies.
Spend your life with someone and then have no rights because no legal relationship exists.
I'm talking legal marriage here. Do you feel that it is a necessary thing to have when dealing with family or sexual relations? Must two people be married to have children? To have sex? Is legal marriage a requirement for a commited couple in your opinion, or would just the personal commitment between the two be good enough in your eyes?
Do the ring and the paper really matter?
We're in the same boat.My husband and I started our family before we got married; so did my parents, for that matter. In both cases, the marriage was more about the legal benefits than cementing the relationship; as far as we were concerned, we'd already made the commitment to each other, and legal aspect was pretty superfluous.
We're in the same boat.
I'm talking legal marriage here. Do you feel that it is a necessary thing to have when dealing with family or sexual relations? Must two people be married to have children? To have sex? Is legal marriage a requirement for a commited couple in your opinion, or would just the personal commitment between the two be good enough in your eyes?
Do the ring and the paper really matter?
Draka, I wondering why you are asking this. You don't believe marriage is important and when someone disagrees with you (in another thread), you've gotten very defensive and taken it very personally. Are you wanting to be convinced or just argue your side somemore?
The Christian, Biblical answer to your question is yes. Having said that, please don't take my opinion as a personal attack. I realize you've had a hard life and very bad experiences with marriage. Yet, there is a reason for marriage, and it has tremendous value to the couple, their children, and society.
This thread is a bit old now first off. Your comments sparked me into wondering just how most people felt about this subject. As for me taking it personally...well, how am I suppose to take it when someone says that all unmarried women should give up their children for adoption and then when confronted with the fact that I am unmarried tells me to get married TODAY and brings into question the commitment and sincerity of my relationship without knowing jack-squat about me?
Your posts and comments to me seemed a bit on the extreme side and so I started this thread to get others' reactions to the issue in general about the necessity of marriage. As for marriage being the "Christian" thing, it appears that there have been some Christians that fall on my side of this issue as well.
Aside from legal benefits that are part of the government contract that is marriage, just what ARE the "tremendous values" that marriage provides the couple, the children and society?
Aside from legal benefits how does whether a commited couple being married or not affect their children?
If a couple is already in a loving and commited relationship then what "values" does a marriage bring?
How, besides honoring legal benefits, does someone's marriage affect society?
I don't can you share?
Well, Okay. You already know how I feel, so I'll sit this one out. Best wishes for a productive debate.
Sorry, but that seems like a cop out to me. You make these statements about certain "tremendous values" but then fail to name any of these so-called values. You may have stated how you feel, but you have given no basis as to the WHY.