Fetishes

[T-Dawg]

Before I start going on about my fetishes, I would like to know, how do most people aquire their fetishes?

Are fetishes usually a symptom of something bad, or are they usually a positive development of one's sexuality?

Should be simple questions to answer, if this thread kicks off, I might start talking about my own fetishes.

 

[Watchmen]

I think fetishes can be good or bad. It depends on what they are and how obsessive one becomes with them. Is a party of a healthy sexual relationship or not? That's probably the key question.

 

[methylatedghosts]

One idea I've heard, is that fetishes come about as a result of being taught that sex is bad, and that sexual organs are bad. Naturally, as a child, one becomes curious about the differences between one's own body and the bodies of others. And if you are taught that certain body areas are bad (e.g. the crotch) while your feelings are telling you otherwise, the next best thing to resolve this conflict, is to focus on the coverings (e.g. underwear). This moves the object of desire from the "bad thing" to the neutral.

This doesn't mean that a fetish is bad, it's simply a case of environment having an influence on a child's growing up. This also doesn't mean that it's how all fetishes are started - I'm sure there are many possible explanations.

 

[T-Dawg]

Well, I'll start off by listing my fetishes and possibilities of how I got them.

Indian girls - by far my biggest fetish. It's almost impossible for me to find an Indian girl of my age group that isn't beautiful and intelligent. I think it started with an Indian guy I knew online a while back (like, in December-January). He was the only one at that time on the particular forum site we were at that I could talk to and not expect to be made fun of or bullied. We had a few good talks together. I always try to group people by distinguishing traits that seem to correlate with their differences, and it occured to me that he was Indian and Muslim, and all the people who were mean to me were white and atheist. At the same time, I also had a crush on an Indian girl in my chemistry class, and something about every single Indian I met being a nice person led me to form an idea of the Indians being a Master Race (oddly enough, having my heart broken by my crush didn't change that). After Christmas break, I went back in school and noticed that the girl seemed to somehow look prettier and more attractive than when I last saw her (presumably because of the positive experience with the Indian guy online). I have this habit of basing my sense of beauty on my most recent crush (unlike most males, I select a female for her intelligence and how nice she is to me, and then I start to notice later how beautiful they are), so I guess the whole attraction to Indian girls stuck. The attraction becoming a fetish is probably the psycological effect of me telling myself mentally over and over again that Indian girls are pretty.

Feet. I think my desire for feet originated from my most recent crush. It was the first (and only) time I ever touched her... she had her feet up where I could easily reach and see them, and she was wearing one of those shoes that shows the top of the foot, and I couldn't help but rub her feet... (especially since I thought that her resting her feet on the table was an invitation to touch them, and seeing that her other friend touched her and she didn't mind). Her feet felt soooo gooood... (in case you're wondering, she didn't say anything about it or give any signs telling me to stop, so I'm guessing she didn't mind). Now, the thing about my crushes, is that I don't get very many, but when I do, they're extremely intense compared to how attracted normal boys are to any girl in particular. Combine that with the fact that this girl was drop-dead gorgeous, it was a rather pleasurable and memorable experience to actually feel her skin. I could tell you more about the girl, but that's not important for now.
I didn't feel much of a fetish for feet until just a couple days ago, when I read about a guy who had a fetish for feet. That night, I noticed that I was fantasizing about the girl's feet, and that's where I began to think of it as a fetish.

 

[3.14]

wel lets analize fetishes for what they are, bodypart clothing encounter who (or lack off), now almost every one started because of how sexuality is introduced

Luckly nearly every one is harmless.

 

[Mr Cheese]

fetishes are all about what triggers sexual responses...

there are many reasons...

It is not without reason that most people will say, the sexiest organ in the human body is the brain.

 

[T-Dawg]

So, it's not abnormal to have a fetish triggered/awakened by reading about another guy who had that fetish?

 

[Kilgore Trout]

I have a naked woman fetish.

 

[3.14]

thats not a fetish thats being a guy

 

[T-Dawg]

So are my fetishes normal? Also, another question: Is the indulgence of one's fetishes over the internet equivalent to pornography, or can I freely look at pictures of Indian women and not have to worry about God dissapproving?

 

[Alceste]

Hi, Al. Being attracted to girls isn't a fetish, even if they all happen to be Indian girls at this point in your life. That sounds very reasonable to me, because Indian girls are hot. I'm not even a lesbian and I can see that.

Being attracted to feet is not necessarily a fetish either - unless you can picture the feet that are turning you on attached to someone you aren't attracted to - let's say Eugene Levy - and they still turn you on.

The type of thing you're talking about is totally normal and non-freaky. Every human being with a sex drive goes through similar things, and has parts of the body they find particularly attractive, provided they are attached to a person you are sexually attracted to.

If you like to rub women's feet, and that's as far as your freak goes, you're one lucky SOB. You'll have waitresses lined up at your door one day. Just be glad you're not one of these people:

 

[Alceste]

So are my fetishes normal? Also, another question: Is the indulgence of one's fetishes over the internet equivalent to pornography, or can I freely look at pictures of Indian women and not have to worry about God dissapproving?

If God didn't want you looking at pictures of Indian women on the internet, He wouldn't have made them so hot.

 

[Magic Man]

unless you can picture the feet that are turning you on attached to someone you aren't attracted to - let's say Eugene Levy - and they still turn you on.

Wait...Are you implying that Eugen Levy isn't drop-dead sexy?

 

[T-Dawg]

I haven't the slightest clue who Eugene Levy is.

Why would waitresses line up at my door? Are you saying that I'll be able to afford to have food delivered to my house by professional servants every day?

And what's wrong with the people in the cat outfits?

And about looking at pictures of Indian girls... so, I'm ok looking at pictures of beautiful Indian girls? I'm not entirely sure about that logic... you could also say with the same concept that God wouldn't have made sex so pleasurable if He meant for us to wait until marriage. Hmm, I don't think there's anything wrong with looking at the pictures, but I'm not positive... how do I know when it goes from being a way to appreciate my sense of beauty (or whatever) to an addiction?

 

[Alceste]

Wait...Are you implying that Eugen Levy isn't drop-dead sexy?

I dunno, you tell me:

 

[Nanda]

And about looking at pictures of Indian girls... so, I'm ok looking at pictures of beautiful Indian girls? I'm not entirely sure about that logic... you could also say with the same concept that God wouldn't have made sex so pleasurable if He meant for us to wait until marriage. Hmm, I don't think there's anything wrong with looking at the pictures, but I'm not positive... how do I know when it goes from being a way to appreciate my sense of beauty (or whatever) to an addiction?

It depends on your brand of Christianity. If you're of the ilk that find looking at porn to be wrong, then yes, it's most likely wrong, because you shouldn't be looking at anything that causes you to lust after it, no matter how "innocent" it may seem. But if that's not your brand of Christianity, then I don't know.

 

[Alceste]

I haven't the slightest clue who Eugene Levy is.

The dad from American Pie - a movie which, come to think of it, may help you greatly with some of your questions about human sexuality.

Why would waitresses line up at my door?

They like their feet rubbed.

And what's wrong with the people in the cat outfits?

Dressing up in animal outfits is the fetish they're stuck with - they find it a huge turn on to wear those outfits during sex.

And about looking at pictures of Indian girls... so, I'm ok looking at pictures of beautiful Indian girls? I'm not entirely sure about that logic... you could also say with the same concept that God wouldn't have made sex so pleasurable if He meant for us to wait until marriage.

See, now you're getting somewhere. Keep following that thought and see where it leads.

Hmm, I don't think there's anything wrong with looking at the pictures, but I'm not positive... how do I know when it goes from being a way to appreciate my sense of beauty (or whatever) to an addiction?

It becomes an addiction when it starts to interfere with your daily life and real life relationships.

 

[T-Dawg]

So... why is it bad that they have a fetish for dressing up as animals? If they like that, it'll at very least help them stay together (since, you know, it'd be hard to find another person that could indulge that fetish for them XD).

Er, wait, I'm getting somewhere? How do I "follow the thought"?

 

[Nanda]

So... why is it bad that they have a fetish for dressing up as animals?

It isn't. People just like to rag on whatever fetish isn't their own, generally.

(since, you know, it'd be hard to find another person that could indulge that fetish for them XD).

Pff. That's what the internet is for. There are a lot more furries than you think.

 

[3.14]

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