Yes, bless their little hearts.
I'm simply amazed at the progress made by all these fine feminists when I talk to my grandmother about how much things have changed in her life.
Even in my own life, things have noticeably changed. I'm half considering becoming a software engineer, which simply wouldn't have been an option 20 years ago unless I wanted to be a trail blazer. (I tried that. It sucks.)
I hear ya. 20 years ago, I was still considered the equivalent of an abandoned whore. I started adopting that label like a rebellious badge of honor, but it's amazing how younger generations are so much more accepting of what I do in the privacy of my bedroom.
Our generation has been trailblazers in the expansion of gender equality to include trans-rights, but I still from time to time give my mother a kiss on the cheek for what she and all her "angry-feminists" friends went through with fighting for the Equal Rights Amendment (which still needs to be passed...amazing).
I'd love for my mother to be in this debate. Closing the wage gap and breaking through the glass ceiling was what she was most passionate about back in the '70s and still to this day. She used to follow all the debates between Gloria Steinem and Phyllis Schlafly (she still vomits in her mouth at the mention of Schlafly, btw), and I remember tagging along with her to her meetings with other activists while hearing story after story after story of women getting fired, demoted, harassed, passed over for promotions, and on and on and on. A few times here and there isn't worthy of investigation, but
every single woman they'd meet had a story of gender discrimination, and when it's over 95% of the women in the workforce reporting something of note, red flags popped up everywhere.
I still remember my mother in her government job inviting over an 18 year old female high school dropout, who had difficulty reading and writing, and my mother helping her get a job at what used to be the Farmers Home Administration, which merged with other departments to become the USDA. This young woman was immediately promoted to a higher position than my mother's, in spite of my mom holding a degree in business administration and had experience training others in her field. This young woman was found having an affair with a higher up, which was not pursued by any internal affairs investigators to see if the affair was within ethical bounds of if any coercion was involved. But in spite of this young woman's sudden success within the department, she never got a higher grade than the men did.
My mother came home in tears one day when I was in high school because another promotion was given to a young man, passing her up and all other women in her pay grade, because - she was told -
he held a business degree. Remember, my mother had not only her business degree, but 10 years experience in the field, a stellar attendance record, and no blemishes in her work. She also revamped some of the bureaucratic red tape that people were always complaining about and had all credit to that improvement solely given to her. In her 30 years in government work, she never was promoted to anything higher than what would be considered upper-middle management.....along with the majority of women that she was working with.
I hated seeing my mom go through that. She used to tell me that one of her life's missions was to make sure I would never have to go through something like that. And so she'd wipe her tears, get on the phone, and start crafting letters to our Congress.
She's still highly involved with Second Wave concerns, so she's aware of the disparities occurring in industry and the public sector. Her opinion is that the wage gap and the glass ceiling is still there, and that - she tells me - still ****es her off.
I'll say, "Remember mom, people will say you're being an angry feminist."
She always responds, "The wage gap exists, hon. You're either angry or an idiot. Which would you rather be?"