First... don't "hit" them.
Second... don't use your hand (hands are for blessing)
Third... get a small paddle that has a ball attached to it by a rubber band. Remove rubber and ball.
Fourth... Sit down with all your love and explain that bad actions have consequences. (you are teaching them that the world will spank them but without love) I use scripture here.
Fifth... Give them one swat (It is more the embarrassment than the actual swat
)
Sixth... Have them say what they did wrong and ask forgiveness.
Seventh... Let them know they are a child of God and children of God don't do those things.
Eighth... Give them a BIG hug, tell them how much you love them
Ninth... Go out and have a ball with your child and act like they never did anything wrong and don't every bring it up again... (No - this is the FIFTH time I've told you
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