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Some kids need very little discipline...some need a lot.
Its open to interpretation. My parents spanked, but their children did not. At the center was the interpretation of a scripture verse 'Rod of correction'. My parents took it to mean that children must be spanked. Part it was a misunderstanding about scripture, but mainly this misunderstanding came from negligence on the part of grandparents on both sides. A bad grandparent has stacking effects over time. Two out of four grandparents were quite negligent or purposely abusive. The other two were saintly but did not have a lot of guidance from their own parents. They either spoiled or over-disciplined.
How does it help you out in adult life? Does your boss punch you in the face if you mess up at work? Do you beat your wife when she doesn't do what you ask her to?
You have to hit to discipline?
Yes, it did.
I'm glad too. I might have otherwise let me people lead me around, follow authority blindly, and never had the courage to callout my bosses over their crap. I wouldn't be a good liar either, and I've used that skill to help friends out many times. I wouldn't have realized you can break the rules and probably nothing will happen but you'll get what you want anyways. It wouldn't have taught me some punishments are easily endured and a minor inconvenience.
Bear-baiting? I know corporal punishment isn't - I saw the world map of it just this week when the topic was covered in a religious education class at the school where I work. (Apparently it is not condoned by Christianity
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What about war?
There is an exception to this, explained by Krishna
As the article demonstrates, the U.S.A, seems to pride itself in being persistently backward.
yes.. but lovingly.
How does a person "lovingly" hit a child?
In what circumstances would you do that, and do you really believe it's going to help?
First... don't "hit" them.
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It would be a lot more effective without the hitting part. And look how you've described it .... "it is more the embarrassment than the actual swat." How do you think the child internalizes that embarrassment from being physically hit? You should listen to what other posters learned by being punished in this manner as a child - none of it was positive. And all available empirical evidence backs that up.First... don't "hit" them.
Second... don't use your hand (hands are for blessing)
Third... get a small paddle that has a ball attached to it by a rubber band. Remove rubber and ball.
Fourth... Sit down with all your love and explain that bad actions have consequences. (you are teaching them that the world will spank them but without love) I use scripture here.
Fifth... Give them one swat (It is more the embarrassment than the actual swat
Sixth... Have them say what they did wrong and ask forgiveness.
Seventh... Let them know they are a child of God and children of God don't do those things.
Eighth... Give them a BIG hug, tell them how much you love them
Ninth... Go out and have a ball with your child and act like they never did anything wrong and don't every bring it up again... (No - this is the FIFTH time I've told you
How do you know they understood, of did they just say they understood out of fear of getting hit again? In my experience from parenting and teaching, there are plenty of other more non-violent ways to explain to a child how lying isn't a good thing, that would include how sometimes it is a good thing. It was a long discussion whenever I taught the novel Number the Stars to my Grade 5 class.