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Corporal punishment

Wildswanderer

Veteran Member
It's the year 2022. There are a ton of effective ways to discipline your kids that don't involve hitting them. All existing evidence demonstrates that hitting kids is detrimental to their physical, emotional and psychological well-being.

Funny how you keep avoiding the point about how it's illegal to hit adults.

Gotta love this stance ... forced births and child abuse everybody!
I'm not advocating abuse. Get real.
 

Shadow Wolf

Certified People sTabber
First... don't "hit" them.
Second... don't use your hand (hands are for blessing)
Third... get a small paddle that has a ball attached to it by a rubber band. Remove rubber and ball.
Fourth... Sit down with all your love and explain that bad actions have consequences. (you are teaching them that the world will spank them but without love) I use scripture here.
Fifth... Give them one swat (It is more the embarrassment than the actual swat :) )
Sixth... Have them say what they did wrong and ask forgiveness.
Seventh... Let them know they are a child of God and children of God don't do those things.
Eighth... Give them a BIG hug, tell them how much you love them
Ninth... Go out and have a ball with your child and act like they never did anything wrong and don't every bring it up again... (No - this is the FIFTH time I've told you :) )
So you beat them with a toy amd humiliate them?
 

Wildswanderer

Veteran Member
That is the worst excuse I have ever heard.

Especially, when you are ignoring the massive amount of evidence to the contrary. The fact that you can even use this excuse, means it did scar you. The answer is the scar.
I see no such evidence. For child abuse, sure. I'm quite aware of the difference.. apparently you aren't.
 

Vinayaka

devotee
Premium Member
Understood. :) I still think that question is equally relevant or irrelevant no matter who it is addressed to. If the results are good, whatever the cocktail of methods used, apparently it worked.

Some people use a time out or a week's restriction of privileges (punishment). I didn't like that method.
The other thing that's important to remember is that kids are all different in learning styles. Not one size fits all. I'd certainly try a lot of stuff, as we have so many more known options. At school I used peer counseling, time outs, but mostly just chats. It depends on their age as well, as developmentally, the ability to understand varies a lot.
 

Wildswanderer

Veteran Member
How does a person "lovingly" hit a child?
Considering how life will hit us, the loving correction of a parent is a blessing. We have a lot of spoiled people trying to exist in the real world today and failing by the millions. Especially young men.... They never learned that actions have consequences, and were never given the tools to man up.
 

Terrywoodenpic

Oldest Heretic
First... don't "hit" them.
Second... don't use your hand (hands are for blessing)
Third... get a small paddle that has a ball attached to it by a rubber band. Remove rubber and ball.
Fourth... Sit down with all your love and explain that bad actions have consequences. (you are teaching them that the world will spank them but without love) I use scripture here.
Fifth... Give them one swat (It is more the embarrassment than the actual swat :) )
Sixth... Have them say what they did wrong and ask forgiveness.
Seventh... Let them know they are a child of God and children of God don't do those things.
Eighth... Give them a BIG hug, tell them how much you love them
Ninth... Go out and have a ball with your child and act like they never did anything wrong and don't every bring it up again... (No - this is the FIFTH time I've told you :) )

So you prefer to embarrass. Indoctrinate, and confuse them with mixed messages as well as hurt them .
 

Wildswanderer

Veteran Member
A child doesn't reason the same as an adult. What you see as a spanking, may very well be construed as more to them. I can't choose how they will react, so why chance it?
Letting your child be a terror will not serve them well in life.
You are actually helping them by using discipline.

One of mine went into the military...can you imagine how he would have fared if he had never learned beforehand that authority must be respected?
 

Wildswanderer

Veteran Member
Once again, you're conflating physical punishment and discipline. Just because my child personally won't be hit, does not mean they won't be disciplined or they are spoiled. That's a non sequitur argument.
Like I said it depends on the kid... some never need more than a stern voice. We had one like that.
However, we also had three pretty stubborn ones.
 

The Hammer

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Premium Member
Letting your child be a terror will not serve them well in life.
You are actually helping them by using discipline.

Conflation between discipline and physical punishment. Non sequitur.

I never said I would not discipline my children, that's just silly. I just won't hit them, I'm much more creative.
 

The Hammer

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Premium Member
One of mine went into the military...can you imagine how he would have fared if he had never learned beforehand that authority must be respected?
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I would never respect an authority that hit me. That's certainly not what I learned about leadership and discipline the 10 years I served as a Sailor.
 
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