That's what I was pondering as well. I wasn't aware of any instance you've made the claim that no parent is obliged to provide for the child.Really?!? You have extremely poor powers of observation then. Did you infer that from these posts?
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That's what I was pondering as well. I wasn't aware of any instance you've made the claim that no parent is obliged to provide for the child.Really?!? You have extremely poor powers of observation then. Did you infer that from these posts?
The man has to pay for her decision to handle the mistake they both made.
But ultimately the woman decides whether or not a man is going to be a father though. If all that fails, if both the man and the woman fail to prevent the pregnancy, the woman chooses whether or not they have a child. Right?
The father has a say in whether or not a child is created, but he has no say in whether or not a child is born, which is a pretty important life event that he has no right to decide for himself.
Exactly. Use it. You're consistently championing women's rights in the wrong thread.
Yes, I was just reading the actual rules for the first time: -For any DIR or discussion sub-forum that is colored green, non-members of that area may make respectful posts that comply with the tenets and spirit of that area. This includes questions, as well as knowledgeable comments.I'm discussing men's issues in a men's issues DIR. If you think any of my posts are inappropriate, report them and let the mods decide.
Yes, I was just reading the actual rules for the first time: -For any DIR or discussion sub-forum that is colored green, non-members of that area may make respectful posts that comply with the tenets and spirit of that area. This includes questions, as well as knowledgeable comments.
I don't think you've been doing that. Reported.
If the two of them do end up having a child, due to not exercising any of their individual birth control options, then they are both equally responsible for it, but either one can still pass on legal custody to another responsible, willing adult and renounce their own parental access and obligations (at least that's what I'm proposing).
Unless I'm misunderstanding you, that's what I'm proposing too. Either parent should be able to renounce their parental access and obligations (except I would add: within a reasonable time frame. It would be pretty messed up for one parent to lead the other to believe they will be there and do their part and then renege when the child is born).
That I could agree to I think.No way would I for one ever advocate for either parent to just basically walk off from the child leaving the other the sole burden.UNLESS they both agreed to it.
I know people that have done that.Just there was no formal legal agreement.Like I agree not to sue you for child support if you just stay out of our lives on a handshake.As a matter of fact my DIL's parents did that.Her father has never paid a penny for her support and they have never met face to face.The first time she ever spoke to him she was in her early 20's.
This would also protect the parent who keeps the child from having the other one suddenly show up years later demanding their parental rights.
Only about 2% of cases ever end up in court,
The issue here is, these rights do not address the right of a man's refusal to provide for any impending child.
Is that a right? Should it be?
If you're still having trouble with your inference process, I can help. One or both or the adoptive parents will care for and be 100% responsible for the child.
You can't just snap your fingers to make a new loving home for an unwanted child appear. I don't think we can look at the issue from only one perspective by treating the father's intersts as paramount. Favouring the father's interests the way you describe would mean disadvantaging at least some of the children affected; their interests need to be considered as well for a balanced approach.
You're treating the father's interests as superior to the interests of the child.Well, that's kind of a moot point because forcing someone to care for or support an unwanted child doesn't mean they will get a loving home or the mandated support. It only means the parent who doesn't want the child will be penalized for it.
And I'm not treating the father's interests as paramount. I am treating the mother's and father's interests equally and giving them equal choice in whether or not to have a child.
- "the vast majority" is not all. You're still describing a situation where nobody has an obligation to make sure the child's needs are met.Either way, the vast majority of infants placed up for adoption are adopted, so in a lot of ways, it could be argued it is better for the unwanted child's sake to place it up for adoption, considering court ordered support is pretty much meaningless in terms of actual support for the child.
Well, that's kind of a moot point because forcing someone to care for or support an unwanted child doesn't mean they will get a loving home or the mandated support. It only means the parent who doesn't want the child will be penalized for it.