freethinker44
Well-Known Member
You're treating the father's interests as superior to the interests of the child.
Funny how giving the father right's equal to the mother would disadvantage the child, isn't it?
- "the vast majority" is not all. You're still describing a situation where nobody has an obligation to make sure the child's needs are met.
It doesn't matter. A court order mandating support doesn't ensure the child's needs are met. It just ensures that parents who don't pay will be penalized.
- A child who is wanted by one parent is not "unwanted", and in the cases we're talking about here, the only obstacle to providing the child with a loving home that provides for the child's needs is money.
Again, mandating support doesn't mean support will be given. If we were really just looking out for what is best for the child, it would be better for the child to be adopted into a home with two loving parents rather than a single parent receiving no support from the other.
but giving the child up is really not a proper option in the vast majority of cases we're talking about: it's badfor the child, it's unnecessarily expensive, it takes adoptive homes away from the kids who truly need them... there's nothing positive in it.
Why is adoption not proper in the majority of cases where unplanned children are born to at least one parent who doesn't want them and won't support them? Is there some study that supports this, that says children are better off living with a single, poor parent rather than two loving, economically stable adoptive parents?