I just think it is healthy to cry with people, to get angry with people. There are different kinds of calm, the spaced out detached can't deal with it so I will shut you out and pretend and act like nothing is wrong kind of calm, and there is the intense grit your teeth forced-because it's socially acceptable calm.... you can put a wall around yourself, define what is "outside" and what is "inside" as two different things, and stay isolated, stay alone through it all.... or mourn with those who mourn, get angry with those who are angry, allow what is outside to come inside, no walls, shared suffering.... there is this idea in other religious beliefs about knowing as you are known, about not being alone, not being separate. Personal boundaries preserve sanity, and I am no expert or guru to be sure.... but haven't you had times where you just wanted someone to cry with you? to get angry with you? to really be there with you? not just calmly peacefully pat you on the shoulder and tell you everything is ok when it is not?
I just think it is ok to have emotions. It is ok to cry, it is ok to get angry - it is part of being alive, it can be part of caring for others.