If you admit that economic opportunity is an essential component of freedom, then societies in which men have all or most of the economic opportunity, because they have the jobs, is a society in which men are freer. It's never a zero-sum game.
To a point. But there are a few issues you're not taking into account.
Having money does make make you freer than someone who.doesn't have it -
all things being equal. The problem lies in how you get that money. If money was falling from the sky into mens laps with no sacrifice or cost then yes, men would be definitely be at a clear advantage over women. The problem is that's not normally the case. In most cases the jobs these poor men get are not the kind women would be rushing to get. In my example (which is a common scenario around here) the man has to do backbreaking work in order to earn the pittance that supports his family. He is also denied quality time with his family because his place of work is hundreds of kilometres from home. He also works twelve hour days and his work not only compromises his health but also risks his life and longevity.
Now when money comes at such a cost, do you still consider this man more free than his wife just because he earns the money?
Furthermore marriage was created for the very purpose of making sure that the labors of men and women (as different as their contributions usually are) are tied together for the benefit of their families. The wife of a rich man is rich. The wife of a powerful man is powerful. Likewise the children. The problem comes when a society allows marriage to be viewed as just another relationship status which can be changed at a whim. That strips both men and women of the security that marriage was supposed to provide.
Suddenly a woman who was once rich through her husband and has borne him multiple children can have all that money stripped from her through divorce. Or a man who's worked years to support his family can have his children taken from him through divorce.
The causality is bidirectional. Greater societal prosperity helps women (and men) be more autonomous, and greater women's autonomy produces more societal prosperity. It's a positive feedback loop.
I can agree with that to a degree. But I will insist that the dominant influence is the societal prosperity in this loop.
Some of them, quite possibly, sure. That's a complete non sequitur to the wrongness of patriarchy, though. We have no evidence that patriarchy is a necessary social norm, and tons of counterfactuals demonstrating that humans not only survive, but thrive in egalitarian societies.
It is not a non-sequitor - something cannot be evil if it is necessary. Denying people their freedom of movement can't be evil if it necessary to keep society safe (imprisonment).
The fact is that the vast majority of the most dominant cultures/nations in the world all were (and are?) patriarchal. Every feminist in the world worth their salt will gladly tell you that patriarchal societies dominate(d) the world.
Now with that said, humans have been around, by scientists estimates, for hundred of thousands of years. Over that time the many human societies around the world had every opportunity to try every kind of social configuration they could think of. One way or another, from among those societies that survived by managing to secure the resorces their communities needed, patriarchal societies dominated.
So you can argue what you will but patriarchal have already proven to be successful because they managed to survive and take humans through the harshest and hardest conditions of our history. If patriarchal societies are no longer necessary in modern times they will die out just as whatever other social configurations others tried in the past died out.
Your evidence for that last sentence is...?
Take a look at any area where men have few work opportunities. The crime rate will go through the roof. That is a disaster.
Glad we agree. The vast majority of women wouldn't choose polygamy if they had the choice. So what are we arguing about, exactly?
I think maybe your understanding of the word choice seems to be different from mine. Are you referring to forced marriages? Because if you're not talking about forced marriages then you are talking about marriages that women choose. Which means they have a choice.
And it is a moot point that most women (and men) wouldn't choose polygamy. In fact most men and women never choose polygamy unless there is a huge shortage of men at that particular time.
Human cultural experimentation over thousands of years has shown us that humans live happier, freer, more prosperous lives when we respect and defend their personal autonomy to the greatest degree possible. That means defending women's social, political, and economic equality with men.
Firstly the degree to which it is possible to achieve full personal autonomy greatly depends on the circumstances. Once again the lower classes are always denied the autonomy of the higher classes. But also the general prosperity of the community and the degree to which they are living past the point of survival also has a great influence on this.
Also, there are two things you should not confuse with each other. Society and individuals. The needs of the society and the needs/wants of the individual only don't always intersect. When they do it is beautiful. But when they do not, the question arises - individual or society?
Gender roles were past society's answer to the issue of survival. But those roles restricted both men and women (I note the you continue to push the idea that it is more women who are disavantaged).
So one cannot blindly fight for more rights without any changes to the conditions that necessitated the restrictions in the first place.