im assuming the majority of you here believe in sexual exclusivity, that having sexual relations with one specific person for life is the ideal setting.
Not I! lol. I am only exclusive when I am in a relationship.
i have heard the arguments that promiscuity is wrong because it is irresponsibly indulging in your desires,
I think putting McDonalds in your body is more indulgent and damaging...
which I am very rarely guilty of as well...
and that it leads to treating women like objects rather than people.
This totally depends of the two people and the situation.
my view is that monogamy is unnecessary and is often taught to women as the way she is suppose to live her sex life. sexual monogamy is a way to have women ignore their instincts and those instincts are often condemned as perverse without any justifcation.
Agreed
so, i would like to know, what are your arguments for sexual monogamy, or against promiscuity?
Polyamory doesn't necessarily equal promiscuity.
Yep.
However, I think that not being very selective when it comes to sexual partners displays both a lack of responsibility and a lack of self-respect.
and yep.
Argument for promiscuity: It is is double edged sword. You have to be promiscuous in moderation or you end up like Father Heathen said, with lack of responsibility and self-respect. I enjoy promiscuity while single because well, I am honest and up front about how I feel about everything so, everyones expectations are set from the get-go, I like attention, it's fun and it keeps me in a healthy position of control. I say healthy because no one is harmed or manipulated. I also give myself boundaries. It is very liberating.
While in a relationship, I am exclusive first. My bf knows how much I love him. I have no emotional attraction to anyone else. Here and there I see someone and I think I would love to tackle them just out of sheer curiosity, but that is nothing special, and my bf knows. He gets the same idea about other girls I'm sure. I told him that if he ever cheats on me he will be breaking our exclusivity agreement, and while I would not break it off or even get too angry, we would not be exclusive anymore for a while. He knows that if we get that "itch" and he has the desire to bang someone else just cause he wants to adventure, to talk to me about it and I can work with it. Going behind each others backs is a no-no. If you are going to do something make me a part of it. But see... we are like best friends, maybe that's why we can do that.
Argument against promiscuity: If you are not responsible you have: kids, diseases, crazy people, bad reputations, drama, overblown egos, and all kinds of other pit falls. In relationships it brings about jealousy and insecurities. It is extremely rare to get two people together who can handle it in a healthy way. It is an enormous risk when in a relationship. You have to really be confident in yourself and your partner, and be able to handle yourself if let down a little.
All in all I would recommend it to anyone once. It goes down best with a shopping spree and a spa visit on a lonely day. lol. Don't take more than one a day and you can only choose two of the pills available to take at once. If you feel any side effects other than fun, stop immediately and consult your best friend.