More and more women these days do not want to have children. Is it because they are selfish or that they do not have the time to raise children in the middle of a sucessful career?
I believe the biggest reason some women don't want to have children is because they are afraid of having to raise them alone. I don't believe women have changed as much as men have. Many men today are not very good father material. Perhaps working hard, sacrificing and staying true to a loving woman is to much to ask for them.
The caliber of many men out there is pretty sad.
What do you think?
If you had posted this as a poll I would've checked "all of the above" Rick.
I live in an area (Santa Cruz, Ca.) that became a mecca for refugees from the Hippy movement when it ended in the mid-70s. Part of the fallout from the lifestyle that emerged in that era is that almost everyone under 30 (that I know) was raised almost exclusively by their mother.
Typically the father was just someone who showed up when he needed money or a place to crash.
The result of that is that we've wound up with a whole generation of kids (adults now)who've been instilled with the idea that a mother is someone who's supposed to sacrifice herself completely in order to take care of everything and everyone, while a father is someone who's supposed to be allowed complete freedom from responsibility so that he can go "find himself".
So, now we see a whole generation of women who are either hopelessly co-dependant; stuck with some chronically unemployed, perpetually adolescent (and usually drug addicted) clone of her dad, or to whom the whole idea of marraige/motherhood is about as attractive as a prison sentence.
Most of the women that I know in that age group are more than capable of taking care of themselves, and many are too smart to waste that sense of responsibility and independeance they've gained from their upbringing by saddling themselves with some guy who
can't take care of himself.
So really it's no surprise if alot of women these days are putting the whole idea of family on the backburner.
Santa Cruz, given it's hippy tradition, is most likely an extreme example, but I'm sure to some extent it reflects American society in general.
Don't get me wrong; I'm the first person to stand up and recognise all the good that came out of the counter-culture movement of the '60s, but I'm not blind to the fact that there's been some (in some ways) unfortunate side-effects.