Burchfam said:
I know from my girlfriend and some of her friends that they feel jipped when it comes down to clothing in the west. I know a lot of girls go to the mall to shop for clothes and just end up leaving depressed due to the sizes available, which aren't made for all women. When women walk around in min skirts flaunting what they got, it catches the eyes of many men... and the men look at the women sexually at a certain point... now this may not be ALL the time, but a lot of the times men look at women wearing sexy clothing, in a sexual way.
Women can't have four husbands because of the fact that when she get's pregnant, confusion as to who the father is will arise and cause controversy. Now we are capable of finding these things out, but at the time you couldn't, and eventually the women can no longer have children and this may cause controversy with the men who want to have one, and she can't treat them equally because of this. The biggest reason for more than one wife, is to make a bigger family... and the wife having more than one husband defeats the whole purpose of it.
What you have to understand is that although the men are aloud to have more than one wife, there are many guidlines which the man has to follow. He has to treat them all equally.. he buys one a car, the other wives must get a car, he loves one wife with all his heart, the other wives must be loved with all his heart, he gives one a gift, the others must get one. Although the men are aloud to have more than one wife, God warns the men that He knows all that we do, and He knows what is going on with our hearts and what our intentions are. I myself couldn't have more than one wife and perform this act as a true muslim, and I highly doubt that there are many muslim men out there who can do this. The prophet Muhammed was capable of doing it, but he was a prophet of God... a lot of the people who practice polygamy aren't doing it under the right conditions, and are not following the guudlines set out by God, and they are only doing it out of pleasure and because of their wealth... and those people will be in for a rude awakening when their time comes.
As for why the men don't have to cover themselves, technically we are supposed to. We may not have to cover our hair, but God tells the men that we must dress modestly and with respect. We are not supposed to be revealing either. The women are asked to wear the hijab, but it's completely up to the women if she does it or not. The hijab doesn't have to always be worn also... the women doesn't have to wear the head scarf infront of her kids, husband, father and mother, in laws, nephews, brothers and sisters, granparents... it's mostly for the public so that men don't look at them with disrespectful eyes. The women don't have cover their faces like you see in some countries, that is definately taking it too far... it's only the hair that should be covered if you decide to do it.
Although women have those restrictions, men and women are still treated equally... because there are many things that men have to do, and many responsibilites God puts onto the man, that the women doesn't have to worry about.. especially when it comes down to money. The Wife is aloud to work and not give a single penny towards anything and spend it on herself, while the man has to fork over all of his hard earned money towards the bills and other things... now this doesn't HAVE TO be the case, but women have that option, and there are many other situations where the men have a higher responsibility or more work than the women, and in the end when you put everything together... we are equal... we just have different roles.
Hope that helped.
Peace and Blessings
Honestly, I don't know how women here do it, but obviously they manage. I'm sure the nature of the material used would be important.
