Booko
Deviled Hen
peacefull said:
HIJAAB FOR WOMEN
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peacefull said:
HIJAAB FOR WOMEN
Quoth_The _Raven said:Some men rape 80 year old women.
Burchfam said:This is simply incorrect - as I know from personal experience. In Western society it is not in the least bit exceptional for women to wear miniskirts. And men do not "tease" women who do. On the other hand, women who walk around in a hijab might well get teased. So in fact, the very opposite of the above statement is true, at least as far as the West is concerned.
Burchfam said:It might well be true that Islam improved the lot of women in Arabia. But that was 1400 years ago, and because of Islam, no further improvement has been possible.
jacquie4000 said:I don't know all the answers on this one I know one of the main ones is if a women has four Husbands how would she or the man know who the father of her child was. I know their are more but one of the Muslims will have to enlighten us.
Booko said:A little history might be helpful here. The pagan Arabs so devalued women that they would leave their infant girls out to die of exposure.
Allowing men extra wives would surely be preferable to this practice. :cover:
There is a growing strain of thought in Islam today that monogamy is really preferable. The reason is, in the verse that says up to 4 wives are allowed, it also says "if you can treat them fairly." But in a verse in another sura, it says...well really you couldn't treat them fairly. Thus, monogamy would be the ideal.
Judgement Day said:I disagree. Hair for women are part of their beauty too, it is their crown, so hair must be covered too. Why do you think there are hair beauty salons for women, but not for men?
Hema said:I see girls in a lot of American movies wearing a lot less than mini skirts. Even in my own country I see girls wearing skirts which make me think "How will she sit in that?" Of course to people like you Burchfam and even me, such clothes are unacceptable. However, not everyone in society will see it like that. I see young teenage girls dressing like if cloth is scarce and I wonder why their parents let them leave their homes dressed like that.
As I said in my previous post, I don't see why women should cover their faces when men don't have to. That to me is unfair. I have seen Muslim men with the cap over their hair (I forget what they call it) though.
As for the four wives bit, one of my Muslim friends said that Prophet Mohammed (p.b.u.h.) had four or five wives (Can't remember...think it was five), because at that time, women were very dependent on men for survival. He married these women to support them, he didn't do it out of lust.
I don't know if that is true, so someone please correct me if that's wrong. I personally think that a man should have one wife and a woman should have one husband.
Judgement Day said:I do not believe thats true, you are saying something that is the opposite. Women wearing revealing clothes are more likely to get teased than women who where modest clothes.
I also disagree with your second statement, a lot of scientific discoveries and advancement has been discovered by Muslim scientists.
Allowing men extra wives would surely be preferable to this practice. :cover:
Burchfam said:Well, Aisha was certainly not a widow when he married her - unless, in her six years of life, she had already managed to accumulate one husband, then lose him, before she married Muhammad. Did Muhammad receive a divine dispensation for marrying children as well?
I have still received no clear answer on the 4 wives rule. I can understand why women should not have more than one husband, but this does not explain why men can have more than one wife. Does this not cause terrible social problems due to a shortage of women for those men at the bottom of the social and economoc hierarchy?
And I'd still like to know why women should cover their bodies, but not men.
Burchfam said:Is this still the case in Muslim society?
Booko said:Judgement Day mentioned wars, and that's one reason that applied at the time. Also, there were men too poor to support even one wife, but the women had to be supported all the same.
Polyandry thread said:The following points enumerate the reasons why polyandry is prohibited in Islam:
Polyandry thread said:
1. If a man has more than one wife, the parents of the children born of such marriages can easily be identified. The father as well as the mother can easily be identified. In case of a woman marrying more than one husband, only the mother of the children born of such marriages will be identified and not the father. Islam gives tremendous importance to the identification of both parents, mother and father. Psychologists tell us that children who do not know their parents, especially their father undergo severe mental trauma and disturbances. Often they have an unhappy childhood. It is for this reason that the children of prostitutes do not have a healthy childhood. If a child born of such wedlock is admitted in school, and when the mother is asked the name of the father, she would have to give two or more names! I am aware that recent advances in science have made it possible for both the mother and father to be identified with the help of genetic testing. Thus this point which was applicable for the past may not be applicable for the present.
2. Man is more polygamous by nature as compared to a woman.
3. Biologically, it is easier for a man to perform his duties as a husband despite having several wives. A woman, in a similar position, having several husbands, will not find it possible to perform her duties as a wife. A woman undergoes several psychological and behavioral changes due to different phases of the menstrual cycle.
4. A woman who has more than one husband will have several sexual partners at the same time and has a high chance of acquiring venereal or sexually transmitted diseases which can also be transmitted back to her husband even if all of them have no extra-marital sex. This is not the case in a man having more than one wife, and none of them having extra-marital sex.
I've always loved this one...where do these mysterious STD's come from if no-one is having extra marital sex? Do they just miraculously appear out of nowhere because a woman has more than one husband? :sarcastic4. A woman who has more than one husband will have several sexual partners at the same time and has a high chance of acquiring venereal or sexually transmitted diseases which can also be transmitted back to her husband even if all of them have no extra-marital sex. This is not the case in a man having more than one wife, and none of them having extra-marital sex.
Burchfam said:Then this is something that sets Muslim society apart from the West, because in the West such a practice would be regarded as paedophilia.
I have (Baha'i) friends here in Atlanta who will be moving to Dubai in the next couple of months. His business takes him to Saudi Arabia very often, and while it is not possible for them to live there, on account of religion, it is no problem in Dubai, and there is an active Baha'i community there. My friends have been to Dubai many many times, and they have described it as "paradise" -- and they weren't just talking about the climate.Djamila said:You honestly believe the Arab world is, today, exactly as it was 1,400 years ago? Have you not seen Dubai? Nor Riyadh? Nor Doha? These cities are more modern and impressive than anything in the United States. Dubai must seem like the Jetsons to Americans and Europeans...
I suggest you travel, it would have a profound impact on your worldview.
lunamoth said:You've made many good points on this topic Booko, but posts like the one below from the Polyandry thread still leave me scratching my head (or actually, :banghead3 ).
Booko said:I haven't read the Polyandry thread at all. All I "know" on the subject is there's one small place in Asia where it's practiced, and the rest of humanity has never seemed to find a way to make it work.
My personal take on that is that men seem to be more naturally competitive, while women are more naturally cooperative.
That may be enough to put us humans off of polyandry right there, without getting into any religious arguments or discussions about inheritance.
Oops, I think we're about to derail a thread again! :cover:
Booko said:I get really tired of men talking to my cleavage, even when I'm fully covered. I've been known to put my hand under their jaw, gently lift it up until they're looking at my face, and inform them that my cleavage has never yet talked to anybody. Smiling, of course. It's really rather funny. Especially at my age. :biglaugh: