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I was discussing this with a few people tonight. We got into a conversation on sexuality, and specifically, sexual orientation. It was interesting to hear their assumptions. One who I typically know to be fairly liberal and understanding said long ago that she was straight. OK. But then she turned to me tonight and said "so, you're dating (X - who is a guy) and you've dated a long time. Me and my boyfriend have dated a long time, too. We don't really know any gay people. Do you and (X)?"
There's always this assumption, it seems, that if you are a woman dating a man, you're straight. Straight people stick me in that slot; gay people do, too. I'm neither. I'm bi. I DON'T see sexuality and gender as so strictly defined, either. To me, I'm just a human who could have potentially fallen in love with another human.... and in fact, I did. He was male, but I could easily have been with a female for the last 4 years instead and I wouldn't have defined myself any differently. As it stands, though, I am VERY happily partnered with my sweetheart..... but that does NOT erase the harmless fact that when a best girl friend of mine is sitting on my bed talking to me, I have to suppress the urge to cuddle her.
So.... why do you think people jump to conclusions about sexual orientation so quickly? Have you experienced that kind of mis-assumption about either your gender or your orientation?
It'll be interesting to hear your thoughts and experiences....
There's always this assumption, it seems, that if you are a woman dating a man, you're straight. Straight people stick me in that slot; gay people do, too. I'm neither. I'm bi. I DON'T see sexuality and gender as so strictly defined, either. To me, I'm just a human who could have potentially fallen in love with another human.... and in fact, I did. He was male, but I could easily have been with a female for the last 4 years instead and I wouldn't have defined myself any differently. As it stands, though, I am VERY happily partnered with my sweetheart..... but that does NOT erase the harmless fact that when a best girl friend of mine is sitting on my bed talking to me, I have to suppress the urge to cuddle her.
So.... why do you think people jump to conclusions about sexual orientation so quickly? Have you experienced that kind of mis-assumption about either your gender or your orientation?
It'll be interesting to hear your thoughts and experiences....