Epic Beard Man
Bearded Philosopher
During my own post break up situation I recently learned that my former significant other is deciding to see someone else. Without going into too much detail it seems that my former significant other decides to move on so soon and onto another person. Considering this individual expressed being in love with me and initally instigated the phrase in our relationship, I think its quite odd someone who was in love could move on so quickly. I was recently told through text message that "I give a "sh*t about you, but I just act like I don't" yet this individual can move on so quickly despite the things I've done to try and make a situation work (despite her issues concerning her sexual assault/abuse in her former relationships).
Now I'm not going to rehash old news, but it just proves at least in the dating world the cultural climate among some women and even some older and supposed "mature women" that love is just a temporal feeling. Ironically I always try to encourage some of my friends in their failing relationships to give love a try in another situation with a different person and to be optimistic, but as I realize my situation along with several other situations with my co-workers and other friends, I'm starting to realize that there exist among women in California, a phenomena where love is used either as a crutch or a momentary feeling and not necessarily something that is really building a relationship around.
For example a fellow registered nurse named "Jose" recently was terminated from my hospital for threatening an EMT to stay away from his wife (while at home mind you) because he (Jose) found out that while he was at home taking care of his two babies, his wife was philandering with the EMT after work and also sexting each other. Jose was terminated and his wife still works on the same shift with the man she decided to cheat on Jose with.
An EMT I'll call "Ernesto" an EMT turned registered nurse was cheating on his wife with a Starbucks barista who I knew and befriended long time ago. I even told this young lady after finding out she was seeing this guy who is married that it is wrong and she ought to break it off, continued to see him. What made this situation worse was while they were having sexual relations, instead of a motel/hotel, they decided to do it in the bed Ernesto and his wife sleeps in and to put salt on the wounds, this young girl occasionally would tuck Ernesto's kids in while she would stay over at his house while his wife worked a night shift.
It just seems for me as a new bachlor considering the climate around me that my own trust issues are apparent. Dating is now a scary reality but unfortunately my trust in women at least the ones in California. Sometimes I wish it was the 40's where the value of family was of value perhaps the only thing I agree with conservatives on.
Now I'm not going to rehash old news, but it just proves at least in the dating world the cultural climate among some women and even some older and supposed "mature women" that love is just a temporal feeling. Ironically I always try to encourage some of my friends in their failing relationships to give love a try in another situation with a different person and to be optimistic, but as I realize my situation along with several other situations with my co-workers and other friends, I'm starting to realize that there exist among women in California, a phenomena where love is used either as a crutch or a momentary feeling and not necessarily something that is really building a relationship around.
For example a fellow registered nurse named "Jose" recently was terminated from my hospital for threatening an EMT to stay away from his wife (while at home mind you) because he (Jose) found out that while he was at home taking care of his two babies, his wife was philandering with the EMT after work and also sexting each other. Jose was terminated and his wife still works on the same shift with the man she decided to cheat on Jose with.
An EMT I'll call "Ernesto" an EMT turned registered nurse was cheating on his wife with a Starbucks barista who I knew and befriended long time ago. I even told this young lady after finding out she was seeing this guy who is married that it is wrong and she ought to break it off, continued to see him. What made this situation worse was while they were having sexual relations, instead of a motel/hotel, they decided to do it in the bed Ernesto and his wife sleeps in and to put salt on the wounds, this young girl occasionally would tuck Ernesto's kids in while she would stay over at his house while his wife worked a night shift.
It just seems for me as a new bachlor considering the climate around me that my own trust issues are apparent. Dating is now a scary reality but unfortunately my trust in women at least the ones in California. Sometimes I wish it was the 40's where the value of family was of value perhaps the only thing I agree with conservatives on.