Hello all. I have had several friends go through some exceptionally nasty relationships before (I have as well). I always used to believe in true love, but recently I am not so sure.
First, I suppose one must define "True love."
By my book, I guess it would have to be the unconditional love by both parties. Unconditional meaning that no matter what different parameters are thrown into the equation, the couple continues to love each other. For example, a guy loses his job and is broke, or a woman that gets paralyzed from the neck down.
That being said here are two major reasons why I question the idea of "True love."
The first side of the coin would have to be biology. Good old mother nature. Deep down we usually crave sex. It's just the way it is (I suppose mostly directed at men but there are some wild women out there too
). Now I understand that some people can learn to control these urges, and live happy monogamous long term relationships, and I understand that some would like to believe that you can still love someone and have an affair with someone else (although I disagree.)
Now the second point. Most people enter relationships to get something in return. Whether it's red hot love making, a roof over your head, money, or even just an adventurous lifestyle. And many will claim that they still love their partner even under these circumstances, but I feel that what they actually love is
what is provided for them or what they get out of the relationship itself.
So you know, I kind of tend to view "True love" kind of like the traditional "God." Everyone wants to believe in its existence, and it may be unpopular to state the contrary, but it is a valid point to try to grasp what things are like and how they can be explained without it.
Any thoughts?
P.S. I am not trying to invalidate anybody's feelings here. I understand "regular love" is a very real human emotion. I am just trying to grasp the external variables that would cause people to feel this way.