Sex before marrige opinions

[DeepShadow]

But being married while having sex does not solve any of those. A woman can be married to a husband who leaves her when she gets pregnant. Married women have abortions. Married people can contract STDs. Sex addictions can occur during marriage. I don't see the problem with pornography so I won't touch that one. My point is, marriage doesn't solve any of that stuff.

I believe that Steve was referring to monogamous marriage, where a person abstains from sexual intercourse until they are married and then remains monogamous within the marriage. That would at least get rid of STD's, and it would cut down on the unwanted pregnancies that lead to abortions.

EDIT: I suppose there would still be some forms of STD's, such as herpes...but if herpes was the worst STD out there, wouldn't that still be an improvement?

 

[Original Freak]

I believe that Steve was referring to monogamous marriage, where a person abstains from sexual intercourse until they are married and then remains monogamous within the marriage. That would at least get rid of STD's, and it would cut down on the unwanted pregnancies that lead to abortions.

EDIT: I suppose there would still be some forms of STD's, such as herpes...but if herpes was the worst STD out there, wouldn't that still be an improvement?

....but would lead a MASSIVE increase in the divorce rate

 

[DeepShadow]

You think so? Please explain.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

That would at least get rid of STD's,

It wouldn't completly eliminate them, but it would help lower the numbers greatly.

 

[DeepShadow]

It wouldn't completly eliminate them, but it would help lower the numbers greatly.

Agreed. See my edit above.

 

[michel]

One point which I don't think has been mentioned is the increased risk in Cervical cancer due to a woman having 'numerous' (whatever that means) Partners.

 

[painted wolf]

married people have unwanted pregnancies too you know...

wa:do

 

[Original Freak]

You think so? Please explain.

All the realationships that are 'strong' but then they find out they are not compatable sexually or aren't the kind of people who can live with each other day in and day out, and then break up, they would just become divorces.

 

[Natas]

I probably have a slightly more radical view towards sex before marriage compared to most. IMO, sex before marriage is not only healthy for a person but, as has been stated previously by someone else, recommended.
Marriage is difficult enough, even if there were no such thing as sex. Also, the mystique surrounding virginity is overrated.
In my opinion, a woman or man that is totally ignorant of what to do in bed may damage the first sexual/emotional encounter with her/his married mate. This may cause even more problems later. A man and woman that know the, "ins & outs", (pun intended) of intercourse, will have a better chance of sexual compatibility most every time, and can then focus on the more practical matter of learning how to get along in other areas of their union.
Sex should be viewed as what it really is...a great physical and emotional melding of people. Sex for procreation isn't and shouldn't be the main, "Thrust", of a sexual union. As long as people are consenting and careful about contraception, they should have as many lovers as they are physically and mentally inclined to have.
But let's keep religion out of sex. There is enough guilt in the world without adding more from the sexual act.

 

[DeepShadow]

married people have unwanted pregnancies too you know...

wa:do

Agreed. That's why I said 'cut down,' not eliminate. If you want to correct something I said, make sure I actually said it.

 

[Apotheosis]

I see nothing wrong with two responsible people having sex before marriage.

 

[YamiB.]

I don't see how marriage is nessecary to having sex. I think the most important requirement for sex is that the individuals love eachother.

 

[Mike182]

i think that the conditions for sex must be that the two people (i say TWO people) must both oncent

they must both be over the age of 16 (legally)

i would say they must have been in a relationship that has lasted for some period of time - and they intend to keep the relationship going to the point that they are concidering marriage

i think tha tsex before marriage in the engagement period is not wrong, and i dotn think it would be a sin to have it before the engagement perod if its with the person your thinking of taking for the rest of your life - but outside of that i dont think its right

C_P

 

[michel]

Corruptpriest That is a very liberal view, and that doesn't mean that I disagree; don't you see it as being contradictory to your faith though?

 

[ayani]

persoanlly, i would not choose to have sex before marriage, were i to get married.

but realistically, people are going to form relationships that do not or can not result in marriage, and some of them will have sex. this being the case, folks need to watch out for themselves and one another. if saying "no" is an option for either party and someone feels that "no" needs to be said, go for it. use protection no matter what- if you're in a heterosexual relationship, be aware that pregnancy may result and think carefully about what you would do, should that happen. get tested if you're able to, and above all, treasure yourself and your partner above pleasure or convention.

 

[Mike182]

Corruptpriest That is a very liberal view, and that doesn't mean that I disagree; don't you see it as being contradictory to your faith though?

i view the engagement period as being a commitment to that person, so i dont view sex during this period wrong - i think i didnt really voiced my views right in that post, my mind was on something else

i think that this period or engagement is the only circumstance in which sex before marriage can be justified

i dont have a clue what i was witteling on about in my last post - my appologies :bonk:

i think what i was trying to do was set out conditions in which a homosexual couple can not be restricted because the church does not recognise gay marriage - and so with that in mind all gay sex is sinful as it is not inside a marriage situation

C_P

 

[mr.guy]

One point which I don't think has been mentioned is the increased risk in Cervical cancer due to a woman having 'numerous' (whatever that means) Partners.

I realize this is no debate, but as a public service i think it's important to note your error. Frequency of sexual partners in no way determines one's verlnerbility to cervical cancer. It can help calculate the odds of contracting HPV, a precurser of cervical cancer.

see http://www.nccc-online.org/hpv.htm

While we're on the topic, uncircumsised men are no longer blamed for causing cervical cancer, either.

 

[constantine]

we need communication before sex...before we have sex before marriage

 

[Ulver]

Sex should be free between two consenting individuals... the only thing that's needed though is proper education on sexuality.... going into it blind in this day and age can be harmful.

Lurker Of Chalice- This Blood Falls as Mortal

 

[Unedited]

Frankly, I don't care one bit what other people do when it comes to sex. Just two consenting adults. Or one consenting adult. Or three.