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Sex before marrige opinions
- Thread starter Ori
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Well, I've read studies that 90% of Americans report having had sex before marriage. I not only think that it's ok, but I think it's wise in most cases. If you are considering marriage to someone, then you should have sex with them before marriage to determine whether you are sexually compatible with them, since sexual compatibility is such a big part of marriage. It's commonsense.
Crystal Red
Episkopos Crystal Red
I think you're forgetting the most important part, that it's fun. Sex before marriage in western countries is almost unheard of nowadays. I hate the way some religions look upon sex as wrong or bad, it's the most natural act in the world, but yes I agree protection protection protection! & that doesn't mean putting three condoms on!:sarcasticSunstone said:
Terrywoodenpic
Oldest Heretic
Depends if you have time befor the ceremony:bonk:
Terry
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I must admit that is pretty identical to the way I see it; although part of me says'no' - and I don't even know why it says 'no'. Maybe it's a fight between the logic of the acceptance of saying "Yes, its ok" (because of all the reasons you have given above (which are all valid) and the 'emotional /Religious' part of me that says "But it's wrong".Sunstone said:
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Terrywoodenpic
Oldest Heretic
I have been through every situation you can imagine. I think it all revolves around moderation and getting to know someone completely and not concentrating on any single aspect. You shouldn't marry a person if you don't feel you have the "whole package".
I used to have a very, very active sex life. I met that special woman that I thought was "the one", and decided to wait until we got married to have a physical relationship. I ended up waiting 5 years!!! The unfortunate thing is that after marriage, I realized that we were not sexually compatible.
I used to have a very, very active sex life. I met that special woman that I thought was "the one", and decided to wait until we got married to have a physical relationship. I ended up waiting 5 years!!! The unfortunate thing is that after marriage, I realized that we were not sexually compatible.
Fluffy
A fool
I don't think having sex before marriage is every wrong (as long as it is consenting, obviously) since both people are agreeing to the risks and therefore are responsible for any negative consequences. Therefore, any harm that is caused, is there choice and does not make the situation morally wrong.
Having said that, I think that it is more sensible to wait until you are in a committed relationship before having sex. It is certainly something I would want to do but I would not judge anyone who decided that they would rather not wait.
Having said that, I think that it is more sensible to wait until you are in a committed relationship before having sex. It is certainly something I would want to do but I would not judge anyone who decided that they would rather not wait.
Aqualung
Tasty
That's pretty much how I feel, too. (though I do think that just becuase it is their choice does not make it morally okay. I think it's morally wrong, even if it their choice, but I'm certainly not going to go around and make people wait, especially if it's like Jensa's case, where waiting is completely impracticable.)Fluffy said:
Draka
Wonder Woman
Not only do I think it is okay to have sex before marriage I beleive it wise to live with a person for a while before marriage. Best to see how you REALLY work with a person before dragging legalities into it and find out later it doesn't work.
I married my first husband before ever living with him and regret it immensly. Had I known then what I know now I never would have married him and had to have undergone the torment and abuse I did.
As for sex, as it is an intregal part of a relationship (for the most part) I think it best to experience that as well. It is supposed to be the ultimate expression of love. It better feel that way too.
Though I am a BIG opponent of underage sex...in any form. Even with those the same age. Children need not have children or take the risk to put themselves in that situation. A lot of adults aren't ready for the consequences of sex, let alone children. And why rush? Why not enjoy the youth while you can and not pressure oneself to do something that they may look back on in later years and think "I SO wasn't ready"? Those who are older who had sex when they were young, can you really say it was the right thing to do NOW? Or do you regret the choices you made and wish you would have waited a bit longer?
I married my first husband before ever living with him and regret it immensly. Had I known then what I know now I never would have married him and had to have undergone the torment and abuse I did.
As for sex, as it is an intregal part of a relationship (for the most part) I think it best to experience that as well. It is supposed to be the ultimate expression of love. It better feel that way too.
Though I am a BIG opponent of underage sex...in any form. Even with those the same age. Children need not have children or take the risk to put themselves in that situation. A lot of adults aren't ready for the consequences of sex, let alone children. And why rush? Why not enjoy the youth while you can and not pressure oneself to do something that they may look back on in later years and think "I SO wasn't ready"? Those who are older who had sex when they were young, can you really say it was the right thing to do NOW? Or do you regret the choices you made and wish you would have waited a bit longer?
Bastet
Vile Stove-Toucher
Good point, and I tend to agree. I waited till I was 18, and I still think I wasn't ready...in between two long-term relationships, I went on a rampage of self-destructive one-night-stands. I wish I'd sorted out my confusion about my sexuality before I put myself through all that.Draka said:
The thing I've found is that kids think they know it all (especially once they hit 18 and have "grown up"), and that even if you try to explain why it may be better to wait a while - not necessarily till marriage - they won't listen. I know I wouldn't have lol. Hindsight is 20/20.